Hey, chat. I was told by a close friend recently that they think that me being 41 and having friendos in their early 20’s is weird and concerning. Please note, I do hang out with pups and peeps my own age as well. What do y’all think?
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Weird & concerning? The only thing weird & concerning is someone else’s need to gatekeep rules and regulations around what age groups folks make friends with. That’s what’s fuckin weird and concerning to me. I have friends (not acquaintances) 10-15 years older/younger than I who I trust implicitly.
Don't find it concerning personally. I'm just a little older than you and my fiancé is younger. I also keep a range of friends from 22-63. Enjoy hanging with the younger friend group bc they are active, just as much as I do with my age and older hanging around a campfire.
Just curious, you’re talking a “healthy back and forth” in what kind of way? Conversation, activities, general interests? Also, what are you defining as friend vs. acquaintance as some might use “friend” to describe an acquaintance. Just looking for some clarification.
It’s only weird and concerning if you actively seek friendships and relationships with people that age. If you’re meeting or they’re approaching you under normal circumstances, I think it’s weird to dismiss a possible friendship for something like that, especially if there’s a connection.
He was 34 (I was 19) and he would make friends with guys my age specifically and would prefer hanging around them more than his friends who were his age. That trend continued after we broke up, so it REALLY felt concerning.
Ick 🤢
Yeah. Anyone that needs to hang out with teenagers or young people like that to feel better about themselves is a huge red flag 😭 I’m glad you got out of that
I do want to clarify I am not talking about interacting with minors. I am specifically talking about people who are old enough to enter a 21+ venue and who share similar interests and activities as casual friends, not in a romantic relationship setting.
i dont feel thats concerning at all. im within your age group, and my best friend is 12 years younger than i am. him and his boyfriend are the whole reason i found myself as a pup
yeah its good to have similar age friends too but nothing wrong with a age gap imo
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But generally you want to Friend with peers, yes. Hard to have a healthy back and forth with a maturity imbalance.
Yeah. Anyone that needs to hang out with teenagers or young people like that to feel better about themselves is a huge red flag 😭 I’m glad you got out of that
yeah its good to have similar age friends too but nothing wrong with a age gap imo