I have been tremendously lucky in my career, but I have absolutely seen men get paid more for the same or less work with the same or fewer qualifications and I have seen men praised as geniuses for behavior that gets me called a bitch.
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I've seen men praised as geniuses for arriving at work two hours after me, then heading out for an early lunch, before arriving back just in time to wish me goodnight.
Not recently though, since I generally work from home now.
I have a manager right now who does not do this and who will aggressively fight anyone who tries, and it’s an absolute sea change. I will do basically anything to stay her direct report.
I did have a previous male manager who believed it was wrong to do otherwise, and he did his best, but it’s hard to beat the determination of having *lived* it.
Same. There are three men on my team of 18 people and the number of advancements among the three of them is higher than the number among the 15 women. One of them has been promoted three times in the past 5 years.
Talk about serendipity. Earlier today, I was just thinking about one of those mediocre fools. Wondering how many co-workers he got fired between his incompetent meddling and his shield from consequences by over impressed higher-ups. #Sigh 🫤
Mm hm. And many of those same men snipe and sneer at their well-qualified and knowledge female colleagues, and it is VERY CLEAR that it’s because they know the women are superior.
They know that if any of us wanted to, we could make them look like idiots with one sentence. We are an existential threat to Important Men With Big Ideas because exactly zero of the men they work with are gonna point at the gorilla in the room and ask if anybody has called a zookeeper.
When working with Chinese office I could influence, I always requested one of the women engineers to lead a team, because I knew they had to be 10x better than their male colleagues to stay slightly behind in recognition. Each of those teams were the best performing on a shared project.
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Not recently though, since I generally work from home now.
The ones who gave me the most grief over that were managers at my same level. Part insecurity, part greed, and part prejudice. They'd complain to HR.
Good ones do it right.