I fuckin hate the question "can we be friend?" Like... i understand it, but it always feels like a QTE that i cant complete. It is such a puts-you-on-the-spot question
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See, i mistimed my QTE and now some person i talked to at walgreens for like 7 minutes has my phone number and all i wanted was some coffee grounds and 20 bucks
Feels sometimes that people collect "friends" (read: "Acquaintences") like pokémon.
I am very very careful who I actually call a friend nowadays; I don't have a lot of energy to maintain relationships, and to me, a friend is someone you can trust, not just someone you share interests with.
If the goal is only to make friends with me then I’ll do everything in my power to resist that. You gotta do it the long way like the rest of my real friends did.
Perhaps it makes sense when it's like kids asking each other that question, when they haven't figured out forging friendships have way more depth than just labels pasted on their foreheads
For me I agree but also I am a little too desperate for more friends. Love the ones I have but everyones so busy and I dont do well solo for too long. Though ive learned to be careful and also accept occasionally saying hi or sharing some fun things can be semi fullfilling with acquaintances. :3
In my experience, making friends feels a lot more natural. It isn't just like a yes or no question lol. You can't just go "yep we're friends now", because being friends requires time and effort to form a bond that doesn't just magically appear after a single question
I feel like this mostly happens when someone has a social development disfunctional disorder and struggles to understand or learn social cues. I usually recognize it as that when it happens.
Now what's a good way of handling it, that I don't know.
Oh my god yes. I never understood this. Like, that's something you say as like, a kindergartener. Friendships are built, not just . . . spontaneously made. ugh
Questions like those fundamentally feel like they lack consideration for others. It's always important to think about the person you're talking to when asking big questions.
It's important to recognize that questions like those are typically from folks who either haven't thought things through or haven't fully developed their social skills. I often have to remind myself that people are usually not being malicious.
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I get it, conversations are hard, you're outside of your comfort zone, but you gotta give me at least 30% here. Don't even need to meet me halfway.
Dangit
I guess no friendship forever /s
I am very very careful who I actually call a friend nowadays; I don't have a lot of energy to maintain relationships, and to me, a friend is someone you can trust, not just someone you share interests with.
It feels like it's a five-year-old asking me the question. XD
Now what's a good way of handling it, that I don't know.