I wasn't told until I was like 28, I'm 31 now. I grew up telling my parents something 'wrong' with me but they just were like "No its normal to struggle like you do. Everyone just as miserable!"
I'm so sorry you also went through this I wouldn't want this on anyone
My mom just dropped it on me and was like "Oh I never told you?" and everyone in my life was like "Oh yeah I also knew that." So just everyone knew but me
It really is I could of had accommodations and support but nope. And now as an adult, they're like next to no help
That's flippin awful. I had a chip on my shoulder for so long because mom didn't tell me anything about my adhd diagnosis as a kid. Like, me understanding was not part of the equation.
I hope having ownership of your diagnosis has been helpful to you. ;~;
Yeah I didn't realize it was a thing until I encountered this thread. Like regardless what the reason, that's still effd up. Don't rob me of my ability to frame my experiences. :/ All that's left without it is shame
i hate the "it's normal to struggle" and it gets even worse when you figure out that you have something genetic and your folks think struggling is normal because they clearly also have it but then refuse to accept that their experience isn't normal either when you try to tell them
This sounds like my dad trying to be supportive (while at the same time being emotionally abusive) by saying "Everyone has a disability" (no) and trying to convince me that it's normal to be in pain all the time?...
At one point I was doing my own research and questioned my mother about the very obvious symptoms I had as a child. She dismissed it as just behavioral symptoms of my CSA trauma.
My mother didn't even know that I was a CSA survivor until I finally confessed it to her at 16. I feel like I was failed
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I wasn't told until I was like 28, I'm 31 now. I grew up telling my parents something 'wrong' with me but they just were like "No its normal to struggle like you do. Everyone just as miserable!"
I'm so sorry you also went through this I wouldn't want this on anyone
Ablesm is a disease. Hiding a diagnosis from your child is denying them the opportunity to understand themselves and seek proper resources
My mom just dropped it on me and was like "Oh I never told you?" and everyone in my life was like "Oh yeah I also knew that." So just everyone knew but me
It really is I could of had accommodations and support but nope. And now as an adult, they're like next to no help
I hope having ownership of your diagnosis has been helpful to you. ;~;
I can't completely blame her but I also can't help but be upset by this fact
This sounds like my dad trying to be supportive (while at the same time being emotionally abusive) by saying "Everyone has a disability" (no) and trying to convince me that it's normal to be in pain all the time?...
My mother didn't even know that I was a CSA survivor until I finally confessed it to her at 16. I feel like I was failed
Like, when I was three years old.
I think it made me a bit entitled, even though I tried not to be.