the fact this is extremely common is hella upsetting - ThreadSky

bunnyhazedayz.bsky.social • 20 days ago

the fact this is extremely common is hella upsetting

i think fat people should be allowed to maul their doctors alive when they come to them about a health concern and only hear "have you tried losing weight"

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driftintomadness.bsky.social•20 days ago

As a fat person, i feel this. On one hand, yes I understand some issues may be caused or worsened by excessive weight, on the other hand the fact that so many fucking doctors say "OH BEING FAT IS YOUR ISSUE" like frame one is so infuriating. For some people, a higher weight can even be healthy.

badbog.bsky.social•19 days ago

yea it's enraging honestly. ive had the intake nurse treat me like i called her mom a bitch when i refused to weigh myself before i saw my dr. she was SUPER rude and interrupted me a bunch, said my dr would REQUIRE it, and then my dr didnt even care about my weight anyways XD

badbog.bsky.social•19 days ago

worst office ive been to for so many other reasons too

ind1estar.bsky.social•20 days ago

It’s because fatphobia is quite literally taught to doctors in medical school. If anything’s wrong with their fat patient, they’re taught to default to weight.

avalonvt.bsky.social•20 days ago

I went to my doctor to see if there were any options to help me lose weight. Due to diabetes I'm not a candidate for Ozempic or similar, I'm not big enough for gastric bypass surgery to be covered on insurance, and I'm too poor for lipo. So basically my options are nut up or shut up.

sunflowerbun.bsky.social•20 days ago

Had to do my own work to get myself into pain management programs and finding services for chronic pelvic issues. I'm now on a surgery wait list and my doctor has a long term care plan set up for me now :)
It's not impossible, it's just a lot of (frankly, unnecessary) work on your own end.

sunflowerbun.bsky.social•20 days ago

Being your own biggest ally and having a loud friend who will reiterate the same thing and help keep you on track helps soooo much. Too many extra rules for fat people. Tired lol

nukafox1800.bsky.social•20 days ago

If my weight is the problem I, the patient, wouldve already told them.

woodbeast.bsky.social•20 days ago

Literally spent like 10 years between 15-25 being fat shamed about my chronic pain. Lost weight, pain was just as severe if not worse (they aggressively told me to for my top surgery.) 🙃 Of course, it wasn't my weight, it was Ehlers-Danlos. Finally found a competent doctor who listened at age 28. ☠️

xxratkingxx.bsky.social•20 days ago

It's super upsetting to me and it always feels like such short sighted, unhelpful advice. How am I meant to lose weight if I have hormonal issues? or pain that makes walking/standing unbearable? Or if i'm too depressed to drag myself out of bed? Or any number of things they won't even consider

xxratkingxx.bsky.social•20 days ago

because all they see is a fat person and assume we're lazy and stupid instead of taking us seriously as patients.

It really sucks. And it's not even like I'm wholely against loosing weight as a concept,,, but like some consideration for ANYTHING ELSE would be GREAT

raiden-rowe.bsky.social•20 days ago

I've had chronic pain in my lower back, hips and knees for years. YEARS. Yet I'm always told it's cause I'm overweight and putting stress on these joints, to exercise :/

fagfucker.bsky.social•19 days ago

A doctor that was bigger than me (i was overweight.) called me morbidly obese, and then said i should try exercising more. (I was only a bit bigger than ppl my age.)

malechai.bsky.social•20 days ago

I know how this goes. My mom had nodules on her thyroid her doctor could feel, goes to the ultrasound and that doctor just told her that it was because her neck was fat (spoiler: she in fact had nodules that another good doctor saw and had removed). It's a catch all diagnosis for lazy doctors

proxyraptaur.bsky.social•20 days ago

And it gets far worse the heavier you are. Trust me on that. I understand it's their job, but it's this thing they do "Not treating the person, just seeing a sickness". They don't care about you, they care that you're fat. Nothing more.

clyde254.bsky.social•20 days ago

IIRC, when this happens, asking the doctor to put it in your records that they won't diagnose you due to your weight, can often get them to start actually helping. if they don't help, this should give you a paper trail for threatening legal action.

ponderland.bsky.social•20 days ago

This has happened to family members of mine. Literally she went to him about DEPRESSION. It’s a gross viewpoint to assume mental health problems are the result of weight.

scazrelet.bsky.social•20 days ago

I got a wrong diagnosis which led to a lumbar puncture because of my weight.

maddashmiltank.bsky.social•20 days ago

Me going to refill my antidepressants.

"Okay but have you tried diet and exercise instead"

Kill.

ellipsisrenfield.bsky.social•20 days ago

"have you considered losing weight?" have YOU considered losing teeth?

detocroix.bsky.social•19 days ago

Yes. I have MS (immune system), and Meniere's (inner ear), and they 99% of the time comment on weight and commend losing some after typing in on their bmi calculator :p

silverswat.bsky.social•19 days ago

Like we can still be fat and have a bunch of healthy shit thats tasty

silverswat.bsky.social•19 days ago

Like Berries 🤤

sinesystem.bsky.social•20 days ago

Thankfully my doctor is cool and actually confirmed that at my current weight the chances of complexities would be unlikely (I am fat)

Love that doctor

bimbs.bsky.social•20 days ago

my doctor only got me into pain management once i dropped enough weight and still had he same issues (which i've had since i was 16 and i'm 32 now). i was thinner when this pain started btw!!! but once i had bariatric surgery and lost weight i'd gained over the years, then i was taken srsly.

soniasquishy.bsky.social•20 days ago

Can't get surgery until I get to a healthy BMI. It is incredibly demoralizing how easy most people make weight loss out to be. I recognize the increased risk, but I know plenty of people who are comfortable being fat, and they should be allowed to do so! But it just feels so impossible...

xivserenity.bsky.social•20 days ago

I had weight loss surgery near 2 years ago after my weight hit an unsustainable point for me - I have ME/CFS, so being fat can complicate it because it takes more energy to move about. To this DAY I am being asked if my energy is better, or if I'm better or if I'm recovered. Like NO? NO IM NOT???

drakitten.bsky.social•20 days ago

I've heard (but can't currently source) that one of the biggest causes for health issues in fat folk is... the fact that doctors don't listen to them so they often don't go, and they probably don't get the right treatment if they do go.

mizzerymoody.bsky.social•19 days ago

🫂

333rowan333.bsky.social•20 days ago

It's nutty, I was told to lose weight to help with my chronic joint pain when I could only really be considered chubby. Doctors can be so fucking shitty.

blanketm0nster.bsky.social•19 days ago

I haven't been to a proper doctor in a over a year to my shitty situation. I wouldn't be surprised if they tried to blame stuff on weight.

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