people treating male pregnancy like nothing more than a kink fantasy makes me sooooooo fucking sad cuz like I forgot trans men are not really considered men to people when they can't be performative about it.
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When I got pregnant and had to have an abortion, my ex-NP talked down to me like I was a "stupid oblivious girl" or like I was her "daughter." It felt infantilizing and dysphoria-inducing, and she just did not seem to care anymore that I was transmasc. I got pregnant, doesn't mean my gender changed.
She was like "dont do it again haha men should know better (in relation to my bf, not me)". It was disgusting, it still is disgusting how trans men are treated like girl lite kink
if there can be cisfem pregnancy that exists as both kink and not kink, the same should go for male pregnancy or masc/enby etc. It's really upsetting to see masc pregnancy boiled down to kink only when folks like myself one day want to have kids.
Im all for cartoony sims style mpreg fantasy but not when it gets to the wierd toxic biological essentialism that ignore transmen, and intersex people being a real thing.
even those who acknowledge things like “not all women have wombs” and “not all those who menstruate are women” either don’t understand its importance enough to stand up for it, or recognize its importance but sideline it to acceptable social convention - they keep quiet to avoid being Cringe
"👏trans men are men 👏 but I will not acknowledge that transmasc bodies can get pregnant and have children because I refuse to actually think deeper about trans men other than a simple catch phrase"
Theres a movie called Junior from 1994 staring Arnold Schwarzenegger, Danny Devito and Emma Thompson. The premise of the movie is that Arnold and Devito are studying an experimental pregnancy treatment and implant a fertilized egg in Arnold. It's a 90's comedy so it has some rough edges buuuut
Despite being framed as a comed about mpreg, by complete accident, it winds up being a rather wholesome and earnest story about pregnancy in relation to gender. Somehow both about transmen retaining masculine through pregnancy and accessing the joy of pregnancy as a transwoman.
If you're ever bored and want to watch a movie that stumbled it's way into a fun trans narrative, I highly recommend Junior. It manages to side step a lot of obvious transphobia. They put Arnold in drag for a plot point and everyone just rolls with it with almost no jokes at his expense.
And when we bring it up it's like talking to a brick wall and the ppl saying that shit just continue spreading that misinfo. That's def part of the invisibility thats weaponized against us.
The only time it's brought up at all outside of us talking about it immediately gets flagged as LOL MPREG like its a fake phenomenon. There shouldn't be an issue with fictional mpreg but bc of how it's specifically used to talk over us, it makes me start to hate the term.
i think the problem with that is when someone says men cis men straight think it's about them.
i think having trans men have a say in things and have their opinions on their bodily autonomy heard louder would be a nice change. since they hardly get the spotlight on talks of such things.
Seeing trans men and transmasc people in general left out of the abortion rights conversation is such a huge pet peeve of mine. It feels like people who think it’s exclusively a women’s rights issue don’t actually see trans people as the gender they say they are.
I've heard a lot of "No REAL trans man would EVER choose to get pregnant!" As though a) it's a choice for everyone and b) Apparently my top surgery, years of testosterone, and legal paperwork updates were for funsies.
As someone who has a ftm oc who gets pregnant in his story i have for em it sucks i fucking cant publicly share it without folks thinking its some kink shit or me fetishizing them when its not the case at all i just want more of that rep ffs 💔
i know Omegaverse stuff is a kink my issue and venting lies in the fact that people treat the concept of me getting pregnant as inherently a fictional concept that can never happen in reality that definitely ignores the possibility and experiences of trans men pregnancies and abortion care
i mean, as much as it's possible, it's not usually what's being talked about yea? afaik becoming pregnant is not something a lotta trans men wanna do to begin with. So it's a safe bet that when someone says male pregnancy outside of politics, they are talking about cis(ish) males.
High key one of the first "big signs" I was transmasc was an obsession with mpreg fanfic. And I know I'm not the only one, a lot of my fic writing buddies from back then are trans too.
You made me realize that one of the signs of me being a transmasc egg was probably my obsession with mpreg too HELP And I'm still obsessed with it! (but now that i know trans men exist its just normal transmasc person pregnancy)
I've had similar thoughts but I never say anything because i feel like im gonna get hit with the "it's just a joke" and then I feel like a fun ruining asshole 😔
dude youre saying this as im working on a piece featuring alfred in the first few months into him being pregnant :( and im SO worried its gonna be treated as a fetish piece, while its slice of life, it relates to his story, he has a kid and hes a man. RAHGHHG
It really sucks :( There’s so much bullshit around trans reproductive health. girls with dicks getting guys pregnant is all kinky fun and games until it’s a real life t4t couple trying to get an obgyn receptionist to realize that, yes, the man with the *literal* baby bump needs the ultrasound here
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And then we get trans men who can't get proper pregnancy/abortion care bc of this shit
Not to mention the trend of folks being like-
Tired of everything masc folks do that's not binary is treated as "kink"
AS IF TRANS MEN DON'T EXPERIENCE THIS, IN REAL LIFE...
i think having trans men have a say in things and have their opinions on their bodily autonomy heard louder would be a nice change. since they hardly get the spotlight on talks of such things.
A transman wanting a baby to be a father is a bit different from Omegaverse.
Omegaverse is based on the kinda fetish thing.
i just point and go "haha mpreg go brr" mostly cause I'm asexual the thought of any sexual mechanics is beyond me as a nonsex haver.
And that fact this shit comes from supposed allies :/