Yes yes yes, I totally feel "safe spaces" are getting coopted by sex positive spaces and, hey, that's great and fine but there are people that... do not... want... that? And respecting it is not that hard?
It’s something I’ve worked hard to achieve with the Vsky discord, and it’s really made me appreciate how few sex absent spaces there are for those kind of people, atleast ones for asexual people who are hyper racist or other bigoted groups.
100%, specially for those who create sexual related content, it's of upmost priority to ensure that all are able to access the content comfortably and also for us to be understanding when people have clear reasons why they may not want to engage with us, and that's perfectly ok 💚
Yes. Hello, nice to meet you. I'm Tyger Songbird. I'm asexual, and I write about asexuality on my substack. I want to meet with fellow aces and create community here. If you are interested, meet with me.
Yep. bigots have tried to hijack every community, so there will be people who are self proclaimed "pro-LGBT" but make exceptions for like ,ace people, or trans people or anyone THEY don't think counts. ANYONE WHOSE NOT ENTIRELY CIS AND/OR HETERO COUNTS.
I mean that’s really a broad question. As an account? Nothing, you’re here to do that, and asexual people have to appreciate that. But for like a discord? It’s usually separating sexual discussion to a separate part of the discord. Same goes for most other forums or communities
last Pride Month, there was a huge resurgence of anti-ace and anti-aro, mostly anti-demi, rhetoric going around Bluesky. i had to deactivate my account because it stressed me out so much.
As an asexual myself, it's so weird to people say asexual people don't "need" a safe space cuz they're "not oppressed" as if that's what judges who needs a safe space.
This! As a teenager I thought I identified as demi sexual but my best friend at the time used to say isn't that something everyone is?, she didn't mean harm but it encouraged me to think the same 🥲 I now known I fall more towards ace but it may have not taken me as long if I'd have felt okyas a teen
It's also more than a little unsettling to see so many people quick to advocate pro Pride and leave out Demi all together.
"Straight with extra setps"
"You're not really queer, your an attention seeker"
"You're just an ally trying to fit in"
These are all abusive comments that come from [within]
It's hard to police when its within the walls of the community itself.
It's honestly laughable how people who openly express how they've felt oppressed, and cant "Be their selves" have the actual [AUDACITY] to turn around and do that to anyone else.
More people need to be willing to speak up when they see it.
You may be doing the right things♥, but for your good intentions and efforts there's at least 10 others out there who disagree or "don't care cause it doesn't impact them"
People need to understand a whole. Silence. is. Compliance.
This applies to Demis too as they share similar stances and boundaries as Aceys. It's not a valid "safe space" if the horny people cant stop being horny long enough to make people feel safe and not like they are being mentally eaten alive by ants.
You don't demand the removal of sex on my accounts, I don't bring my kinky shit on your doorstep, and we mute folks we care about but would rather not see their public persona.
As an omnisexual, I want my Ace siblings to have a safe space same as me.
If I can be completely honest, sometimes as someone who is AroAce uninvite myself from these spaces. The worst I'm going to get is "why haven't you found a girlfriend yet" and frankly that's nothing compared to what other people of this community have to face frequently.
I often find myself questioning what some of the different expressions on the spectrum mean, but never rejecting them. I might be a confused trans demisexual, but I'm above putting other down for being any kind of queer.
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And I’m happy to shout from the rooftops about yall, because you are severely underrepresented and it pisses me off.
And there is a lot to the ace spectrum. I've been an ace since childhood, much to the dismay of friends and family. "Boy no sex broken!"
I enjoy romance, though!
There are also lots of kinky aces
hopefully that doesnt happen here again 🫠
The only ones we put undo the boot is bigots. All others I stand shoulder to shoulder amongst 💜✊
I wish that was a sentiment more shared.
But yes I agree, the messaging around it is kinda screwy
Demi doesn't mean what most people think.
Safe spaces for all in the LGBTQIA+ not just a few subsets.
I'm an old guy...I've never felt unsafe. As a young person broken, but I've been lucky in the safe spaces I go to.
I'm sorry it's not the same for all of us.
"Straight with extra setps"
"You're not really queer, your an attention seeker"
"You're just an ally trying to fit in"
These are all abusive comments that come from [within]
It's honestly laughable how people who openly express how they've felt oppressed, and cant "Be their selves" have the actual [AUDACITY] to turn around and do that to anyone else.
It makes it hard for some to own their identity
You may be doing the right things♥, but for your good intentions and efforts there's at least 10 others out there who disagree or "don't care cause it doesn't impact them"
People need to understand a whole. Silence. is. Compliance.
You don't demand the removal of sex on my accounts, I don't bring my kinky shit on your doorstep, and we mute folks we care about but would rather not see their public persona.
As an omnisexual, I want my Ace siblings to have a safe space same as me.
Maybe I'm the odd one here