Some self defence training did help, a little bit. It's not bad to learn some self defence. I maybe got away from it because I kicked him in the ribs really hard. I probably got lucky because of the adrenaline. I think that's more likely to be quite honest. - ThreadSky

sexabolition.blog • 107 days ago

Some self defence training did help, a little bit. It's not bad to learn some self defence. I maybe got away from it because I kicked him in the ribs really hard. I probably got lucky because of the adrenaline. I think that's more likely to be quite honest.

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sexabolition.blog•107 days ago

But because the attack had started before I knew it was even happening, I had no chance beyond luck. This had been a pattern in most of the assaults I have experienced.

sexabolition.blog•107 days ago

Some people will shit talk you and try to intimidate you but people who are committed to trying to kill or mutilate you will find a time and place where you are vulnerable and use objects with the intent of ending you before you know it's happening.

sexabolition.blog•107 days ago

You won't even know while it's happening that it's as severe as it is most likely.

mschemistrymd.bsky.social•107 days ago

Yea this entire thread is extremely accurate and worth reading… it really works well at tearing off a bit of the romanticism around violence and the idea of defence.

sexabolition.blog•107 days ago

For years after that stabbing I felt unsafe and hyper vigilant pretty much everywhere. It's gotten easier over time but it took a decade at least for that to even feel slightly easier. Shit like this lasts. I took up self defence classes again after a plausible death threat by a neighbour in 2013..

sexabolition.blog•107 days ago

... But I had to stop that after a couple of years because having men simulate attacks during scenario based training triggered me too much to keep going. It is debilitating surviving even a relatively minor version of an attack like this.

sexabolition.blog•107 days ago

We are a community that faces a lot of violence and, trying to be kinder and more generous than I was yesterday in terms of gendering of language, power fantasies proliferate among disempowered and threatened social groups.

notyournhaama.posts.art•107 days ago

Shock is a crazy thing. Fight or flight doesn't kick in when you don't even realise what's happening.

notyournhaama.posts.art•107 days ago

I'm gonna add here, I was appalled they didn't understand that most of their advice, while sound, was not asked for and is just straight up illegal in this country and if *we* were caught with it, we'd be royally fucked.

sexabolition.blog•107 days ago

Yeah. Tbh after I was stabbed I did a lot of illegal things in terms of carrying items for self defence because I would rather survive than not. And I don't really moralise against doing so. But the truth is that if everyone is carrying weapons we are all more likely to be stabbed or shot.

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