So I put together two documents - in one, I put my expectations for the group and sent it to the static as an open invitation. Everyone except for one person jumped on. In the other, I wrote down what -I- wanted to accomplish and get better at as a raid leader. No one but me would see this. - ThreadSky

vitaminmt.bsky.social • 1 day ago

So I put together two documents - in one, I put my expectations for the group and sent it to the static as an open invitation. Everyone except for one person jumped on.
In the other, I wrote down what -I- wanted to accomplish and get better at as a raid leader. No one but me would see this.

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vitaminmt.bsky.social•1 day ago

I know what my biggest flaw is, and what it's always been. I don't like being the bad guy. I knew as much two years ago when a friend from our old Creator group asked why I think some early members flopped out.

vitaminmt.bsky.social•1 day ago

There's some other smaller stuff in there - I need to reduce yapping, primarily from myself but also being able to shut people up if we're losing focus. If I'm calling mechanics I have to make sure I'm clear and concise, and most of all that I'm -right-.

vitaminmt.bsky.social•1 day ago

I need to play perfect. All things considered I have an easy job here, and how can I hold people to task about messing up mechanics if I can't do them myself? I need to get better at reading the room, both to defuse tension early and to know when someone needs a moment to collect themselves.

vitaminmt.bsky.social•1 day ago

So looking at this as we're nearing the end, I don't think I did a good job. I did hit a lot of the minor goals, but I missed the big one. I -still- don't like being the bad guy. If anything I kept counting on other people to do the bad part for me, which is a supremely fucked up expectation.

vitaminmt.bsky.social•1 day ago

About the best I could reach for the majority of the past few months was ending each night with a broad reminder for people who work on things they messed up. But that didn't hit everybody, and it sometimes wasn't hitting the people I'd intended it for.

vitaminmt.bsky.social•1 day ago

I didn't want to back someone into a corner in DMs and be like "hey I need you to fix this this and this" but I also didn't want to start like, publicly calling people out in our raid chat. I've only started doing the latter within the past couple of weeks, and every time I do I feel like a bastard.

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