Going forward, our young people are going to have to be as strong and able to bounce back quickly as possible. Without it, their lives will not be even close to as enjoyable as they can be.
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Why are you, as an adult, placing responsibility for the future of humanity upon children? Why are you, as an adult, refusing to take responsibility for what you have wrought? How can you look at yourself in the mirror and utter such rubbish? Heal your own wounds.
The mimicking and modeling of others behaviors and beliefs starts before children even start talking clearly. That’s when we can begin raising more resilient children: before they even start speaking.
As a 60+ male. I learned to just shrug off insults.
As I've grown older, I've tended to view it as a deficiency/insecurity/weakness on the insulters end. They are weak and as a result, what you say simply reflects on you not me.
It's a terrible saying. Words can do incalculable damage. Getting punched and hit makes you afraid of that kind of pain. Being bullied, humiliated, by words and make you withdraw completely. We need to raise our children better, to not be either type of bully. It's not one or the other.
Bullies are ruling the world today because no one stands up to them out of fear
And parent aren’t calling their children accountable to their selfish entitled behavior.
They are encouraging it with excuses
How about teaching our kids to, you know, be kind to others, respect their feelings? That Golden Rule stuff about treating others the way you would like to be treated isn't a bad idea. Sure, kids (people!) need to be tough and resilient if they are going to survive, but the door swings both ways.
Agreed. As much of the anti-bullying effort must be invested in teaching kids to deal with and be resilient… and maybe have a flip phone until they’re 16!!
from my therapist & I's discussions: resilience doesnt mean not feeling anything. It means surviving in a healthy way.
if you cant be resilient without lacking empathy, thats NOT resilience: thats unhealthy coping and the other side of being "too sensitive". Work that out in therapy.
As a therapist, I can tell you that early intervention in elementary school with bullying programs can make a big difference, because they focus on the bully as well as the victim. If you can help kids who need to lash out find a better way that’s most of the battle.
Like my MAGA neighbor who screams obscenities at her toddlers. All the while letting them play around old car parts, junk and buckets of chlorine. Who does that?
Beyond that, they also coddled kids with "participation trophies," removing the motivation to actually strive for anything and expecting everything to just be given, a reality borne out of the false sense of entitlement. Now we'll have a whole administration full of these unqualified puffs.
I tell my grand kids what life was like back in 60's-70's. What it's like to actually care about and fight for fairness. We weren't perfect but we tried 😔
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It’s one of the greatest gifts we can give them.
As I've grown older, I've tended to view it as a deficiency/insecurity/weakness on the insulters end. They are weak and as a result, what you say simply reflects on you not me.
And parent aren’t calling their children accountable to their selfish entitled behavior.
They are encouraging it with excuses
The “sticks and stones” folk often act out their sublimated anger on others and/or become the overly permissive parents who don’t set boundaries.
Elon is an example of someone who was bullied as a kid and is living out a revenge-of-the-nerds fantasy as an adult.
if you cant be resilient without lacking empathy, thats NOT resilience: thats unhealthy coping and the other side of being "too sensitive". Work that out in therapy.