If someone seems too good to be true on a date, they probably are. In my experience, the charm and perfection often hide red flags. People aren’t always what they seem! better to stay cautious than get caught in a mess later! Stay on your guard folks 😚 - ThreadSky

scribbleposts.uk • 103 days ago

If someone seems too good to be true on a date, they probably are. In my experience, the charm and perfection often hide red flags. People aren’t always what they seem! better to stay cautious than get caught in a mess later! Stay on your guard folks 😚

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iamjames89.bsky.social•103 days ago

My problem and reason why I’m single is cause I see those red flags. The I usually see them during the first date… so the date then becomes a one night stand after that and move on. 😅 I’ll fuck crazy but won’t date.

scribbleposts.uk•103 days ago

I suppose the one thing I’d maybe consider is to ask yourself if the ones you see are red flaggy enough to write it off so early or if they’re a form of first date jitters but then we’re all different 🙂

iamjames89.bsky.social•103 days ago

Haha trust me I thought the same thing and even went on second and third dates but never worked out.

At one point I questioned if it was me and just the type of guys I attracted.

scribbleposts.uk•103 days ago

Twice this year, I’ve missed the red flags during the date and only realised them after seeing their behavior later. Wish I’d caught on sooner! would’ve saved me the headache of hindsight!

sanjayazim.bsky.social•103 days ago

I’ve got the opposite problem - I see imaginary red flags where there really aren’t any 🤣

scribbleposts.uk•103 days ago

That’s more common than you’d think! It often comes from comparing someone to past experiences or others, which creates imaginary red flags. The trick is tuning your mind to judge people on who they are, not who they remind you of! it’s easier said than done though 🤣.

scribbleposts.uk•103 days ago

Honestly, I’m tempted to blog about these experiences. If I can’t save myself from missing red flags, maybe I can save someone else the trouble 🤣

bobaboy.bsky.social•103 days ago

I say go for it! I think a lot of folks are on their best behavior when you first meet them because they’re in the new potential relationship energy headspace before things get real and they fully show themselves. Never hurts to document the experiences!

scribbleposts.uk•103 days ago

Whilst I do agree with that I also think some people put on a very good show that doesn’t last very long and often only like the idea of someone they just don’t realise it at the time so it does both ways I guess

bobaboy.bsky.social•103 days ago

Oh 100%! It goes hand in hand. I’ve adopted this very cautious approach with dating over the last year because of things like that.

chester66red.bsky.social•103 days ago

So sorry that’s happened to you

scribbleposts.uk•103 days ago

It’s all part of the experience unfortunately, it comes with both good and bad ones! I chalk it up to experience and just hope I’m more tuned to notice things the next time but it does suck.

chester66red.bsky.social•103 days ago

Never gets easier either 🫂

studio78.bsky.social•103 days ago

Dating is so hard. I met a great guy last year. We got on so well and he kissed me goodbye when left and then I was ghosted. Met another who I had fun with and he was keen to meet again and again ghosted

jamie4hm3d.bsky.social•103 days ago

Amen

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