I’m sorry, that’s fucked up. People do not understand (or don’t want to understand) how their off handed comments can tumble into something much bigger and affect people. I still remember shit bullies said when I was like 10 years old and it continues to fuck with me to this day.
Yeah same for me with bullies. Sorry you’ve also had that experience, but solidarity. The thing that gets me about dick comments is… it’s natural to go up and down during sex? It’s super common to not stay 100% hard the entire time and guys should know better than to say shit. But, here we are.
Yaaa even tho I am a porn performer I do believe porn has ruined people’s expectations of what real sex is. Every performer I know barring one or two is using boner pills or trimix. So of course they’re rock hard. But porn is NOT real life.
About the Trimix, I knew about it when I watched "SAGAT: The Documentary" (François Sagat said he used it before filming) and Damien Crosse showed it in a documentary short/behind the scenes of a vid of StagHomme.
People get real weird about bottoms who don’t stay hard the whole time as well. But first of all that’s kinda your job as a top to make happen? And secondly some people just aren’t hard while bottoming, or only some of the time, and that’s fine and normal!!!
This is why I absolutely love how popular “amateur” content is on OnlyFans etc. so much of it is way more real than traditional studio porn, some of my favourite performers don’t shy away from sharing the awkward/funny/sweet moments too (hi @lucdeanxxx.bsky.social ily)
Right back at you! This is also honestly why I prefer side play these days. Even with assistance I’m rarely hard enough to top effectively and I get in my own head
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Thankfully modern medicine solves the issue but super cool that’s just something I get to live with now thanks to one dickhead a long time ago
Ah well