I have this awful "irrational fear" where if I'm having a particularly bad day, I can not indulge in my favortie things because I refuse to associate them with that bad day Idk why it's a thing, I could be drawing comfort chars to cheer up instead but my brain won't allow it 😭😭 - ThreadSky

seasaltshrimp.bsky.social • 1 day ago

I have this awful "irrational fear" where if I'm having a particularly bad day, I can not indulge in my favortie things because I refuse to associate them with that bad day

Idk why it's a thing, I could be drawing comfort chars to cheer up instead but my brain won't allow it 😭😭

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rosie-maple-mouse.bsky.social•1 day ago

For me, I worry that if I do anything enjoyable on a bad day, it means I don’t have a right to be sad because I must have been faking the bad feelings if I’m able to also enjoy something.

sillygoose474k.bsky.social•1 day ago

Perhaps you can assign certain good things to bad days? That you wouldn't need on good days?

illiluminated.bsky.social•20 hours ago

I always feel like I have to 'wait till I'm feeling better' to do things (spoiler; I never feel 'better')

blaed007.bsky.social•1 day ago

Hm,what if those things are the ones that cheer you up? Is it really irrational to do what you love to raise your morale?

supasweetheart.bsky.social•13 hours ago

Answered on twitter already ❤️

guivernotintero.bsky.social•1 day ago

You don't wanna ruin a great song, with bad memories.
I can't look at my older art work, without the painful memories.

seasaltshrimp.bsky.social•1 day ago

That's exactly it;; don't want a thing you love to be forever tied to a bad memory you can't erase.
That fear grew to an unhealthy level where I can't let myself enjoy things on a bad day

synthia.draws.pics•1 day ago

I have the SAME issue except with my own ocs, but even with comfort objects I have such as the plushies on my bed. If something bad happens with either I don’t touch them for a while due to that. I hope whatever’s going on passes and you can return to drawing comfort characters!

seasaltshrimp.bsky.social•1 day ago

Gosh yeah it ALSO happens with physical items that are special to me, can't touch or look at them on specific bad days. It's extremely annoying and I wish my brain would allow the comfort they'd bring, instead of fearing tying a bad memory to them.

lizarr.bsky.social•1 day ago

rip dude. that's an oof.

bluekoinu.bsky.social•6 hours ago

I used to have that issue and then I tried to just give it a shot with something easy (a soft blanket) and now that blanket reminds me that it made me feel better when the bad day happened (like a returning good friend) and I now snuggle in it whenever I need a reliable cheer up or comfort.

bluekoinu.bsky.social•6 hours ago

I have been able to branch out from the blanket and can draw comfort characters and play a comfort game when I need to feel better without much repercussion or invasive negative thoughts.

seasaltshrimp.bsky.social•5 hours ago

I need to rewire my brain like that. I know it's a slow thing and I *am* better at it than before, but the struggle is still strong on the worst days.
It helps to hear others have that issue and managed to switch it around so that comfort items/thoughts can actually be a comfort again at any time 💙

bluekoinu.bsky.social•2 hours ago

All takes time. Small steps and before you know it you’ll be where you need to be 💝

whitewingsart.bsky.social•1 day ago

Very big mood. Been trying to unlearn it, but it's rough when everyday has been... a ride x-x

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