I have found that, for me, that feeling springs from equating "self-centered" with "selfish".
I still struggle with it, but I've also had the fortune of being told by a handful of people that seeing someone discuss feelings they also felt was helpful for them.
I'm always there for my friends when they need my support, whether emotional or otherwise, but when I need help suddenly I'm incapable of articulating that need because "why would I burden my friends with my bullshit?" Even just typing that out felt like whinging.
Whilst I only know you from the interwebs. The only reason your feelings feel selfish is that you are not used to asking for or doing things for yourself remember self-care is not selfish. Just remember you have not only the fine ladies of the channel but an army of us behind you. You need only ask.
I get why you may feel that way but sharing how you feel isn't selfish. As it helps others understand how you think and feel better. It is also important in caring for yourself.
Maddie It hurts my heart that you feel that way, you are not selfish you have the right to ask for help and to express your self and your feeling. Pls my DMs are alway open if you need to talk no judgmet Just love and kindness HUG my Friend
Treat yourself as you would treat a friend. If a friend said they feel selfish for feeling or talking about their feelings, you'd argue like hell that they deserve to feel, to talk through their feelings, and that you want to help. Your friends feel the same towards you.
In this era of social media, it's very common to be saddled with the needs of others, and equally common to feel guilty for having your own needs. Fuck it - you NEED to do you.
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I still struggle with it, but I've also had the fortune of being told by a handful of people that seeing someone discuss feelings they also felt was helpful for them.
Which made "selfish" untrue.