Look, if I take an action with the intention to support some people and those people tell me they experience my actions as harmful, I need to change my actions. Not tell them why their experience is incorrect.
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Absolutely! We need to not take the correction to mean stop all together. I’m always so thankful for someone proving that emotional labor when I’ve done wrong.
Exactly. Intent is good but doesn't fix the outcome. If someone tells me "this, this, and this would be a better help to me," that person is the absolute authority on that and if I want to truly help, they were kind enough to tell me how.
I’ve really been thinking a lot about the power dynamic and about how the structure is set up for the top to define those on lower tiers. Worth. Gender. Acceptable treatment. Identity.
It happens with positive things as well, when the privileged impose “solution” rather than being of service…
(And if you still want to do a thing,
you can do a DIFFERENT supportive thing instead
once you get out of the analysis paralysis.
Although after making a mistake, ngl, my over-hesitance is REAL)
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It happens with positive things as well, when the privileged impose “solution” rather than being of service…
I have been guilty of this. Which is why I said something. I try to only share what I’ve had to learn.
(And if you still want to do a thing,
you can do a DIFFERENT supportive thing instead
once you get out of the analysis paralysis.
Although after making a mistake, ngl, my over-hesitance is REAL)
I wish more people thought this way. 🌟🌟