I got a question for the men 🙂☝🏾how come when you don’t take a girl serious when dating and she tries to move on, all of a sudden you want her and won’t leave her alone?
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Context: was “dating” this man who kept cancelling plans for his work obligations/meetings cause *allegedly* his job sucks and so did his management. Never went on a date, only hung out twice, only wanted to see me when it was convent for him. Cut him off on new years and now he won’t leave me alone
He just wants to know that you are there. Block him on everything because he’s not going to leave you alone. As long as you reply to him he's going to feel like he has hope
Already done friend cause it was getting on my nerves. I hate that I’m so sensitive because I feel so bad blocking people who haven’t been outright mean or rude towards me
He was rude the minute he kept playing with your time. Making plans and canceling them. I’m the same way tho I have a hard time blocking people until things end nasty
Human nature is to always want things that seem unobtainable, or at least, very difficult to obtain. These particular things have perceived high value, rather than things that are easy to get and therefore anyone could obtain.
And as such, if people surround themselves with hard to obtain things, it appears as if their own value, or at least perceived value is higher. Thus is desirable, to them.
I really think people measure serious or exclusive dating differently, so I won’t answer that one, but the second question is simple, most men can’t stomach the thought of seeing another man treating you in ways he couldn’t, so the next “best” thing is to make sure you stay with me.
Ugh this reminds me when i told my husband i was moving on from him and he agreed because he didn’t want
to be better for us and was ok until i moved on and he saw me happier then he crashed out 🙄 damn
We know about the options shawty, it’s only about seeing you with. Yes you are your own woman, but we’re naturally territorial. Non-serious or exclusive.
I won’t say it’s something that you should understand, it’s just something that some men do and keep yourself protected until he shows you more. It’s a wide margin between actions and words that’s all.
For some guys it’s about power , control and accessibility. It’s an ego boost for some. While others genuinely are busy and do like you a lot just don’t have the time per se…. but honestly people make time for what matters to them. If it’s important to the them they will make the time to plan dates.
Can’t relate. Sounds like he was playing in your face. He probably just liked the attention you were giving him and wants it back. He’s still not serious. If you were to lock in again he would fall back into the same pattern.
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B. He getting his money up currently and is embarrassed to say it
C. He doesn’t like you fr but can’t stand to see another nigga with you
D. He just tryna keep you in rotation
I get it tho I personally feel like dating is hard rn for everyone smh
to be better for us and was ok until i moved on and he saw me happier then he crashed out 🙄 damn