Having a lot of thoughts about the terms AMAB/AFAB and how I really dislike how they've become treated as single point verbs rather than shorthand for an adjective phrase. Idk if anyone would actually want to read that so... like this if ya want to hear ramblings from a nonbinary queer who was AMAB? - ThreadSky

sunderedraven.bsky.social • 61 days ago

Having a lot of thoughts about the terms AMAB/AFAB and how I really dislike how they've become treated as single point verbs rather than shorthand for an adjective phrase.
Idk if anyone would actually want to read that so... like this if ya want to hear ramblings from a nonbinary queer who was AMAB?

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sunderedraven.bsky.social•61 days ago

Ok so apparently there's enough feelings under the thoughts for poetry to happen, so I'm gonna do that then maybe come back to this

betwixtduality.bsky.social•59 days ago

They're defs being used for far more contexts than they feel relevant for. Very curious about that "was" amab. Please tell me more

sunderedraven.bsky.social•59 days ago

Ok so. I think my biggest bug bear is that in a lot of context AMAB and AFAB are basically just being used as a fancy way to call someone male or female indirectly. They're being treated as a static label to describe what someone presently is, and to invalidate a lot of non-binary identities. 1/-

sunderedraven.bsky.social•59 days ago

I've had it said to my face when I've identified as non-binary "Oh but you're AMAB". As if I can't possibly be both.
Part of it feels a bit like grammatical hair splitting as well but the AB in AMAB/AFAB is /at birth/. I'm not presently being born. nor did i choose the assignment 2/-

sunderedraven.bsky.social•59 days ago

3/- Assignment as male was something given to me, done to me, before I could ever have any say in the matter. It has exceptionally limited relevance, and tells anyone very little, about who I am /now/. Now I AM non-binary. At birth I WAS assigned male.

sunderedraven.bsky.social•59 days ago

4/- This isn't to say that the terms don't have their uses, or that I dont see the point for having events and spaces limited in certain ways to allow community to heal and feel safe. It's just.... frustrating a lot of the time to see what should be neutral descriptors used to..

sunderedraven.bsky.social•59 days ago

5/5 ...used to police people's identity based on assumed anatomy.

This... came out a lot ramblier than I thought, but I hope it's at least someone understandable.

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