Hmm. I've held this belief that guilt and shame are kind of optional and the goal is to get rid of it, because they're so often weaponized by toxic cultural structures like religion or capitalism but I do ultimately agree with you that it should be an opportunity to reflect and EXAMINE your morality
That way you can alter it if it doesn't truly align with your personal values or if you have an inherited system of morality that makes you conflicted.
I agree, but guilt is such an easy thing for some people to manipulate in others so it’s worth examining your own guilt and see how much of it is valid. (Yes I speak from experience lol)
This is my struggle as I am trusting and so I have been manipulated into feeling guilty without understanding the moral infraction, leaving me confused and conflicted.
Definitely, I was made to feel guilty for not anticipating/ meeting other people’s needs (parents and friends ). Sometimes you have to go through a period of reset where you just service your own needs for a while before re-grounding
Thank you for this comment. I can see how someone might lean on guilt or shame to compel another person to meet their needs. Currently in a reset right now!
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