Honestly, I love intergenerational friendships. We don't have enough of them. I stopped by a 90 year old woman's house to drop something off at 9 last night, and she opened the door with "come in, quick, the neighbours will talk if they see I keep having young men over at these hours!" - ThreadSky

jayhulmepoet.bsky.social • 12 hours ago

Honestly, I love intergenerational friendships. We don't have enough of them. I stopped by a 90 year old woman's house to drop something off at 9 last night, and she opened the door with "come in, quick, the neighbours will talk if they see I keep having young men over at these hours!"

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alisonedwards7.bsky.social•11 hours ago

Joining a choir in my early 20s was brilliant because suddenly I had a whole network of friendly, wise older people as well as the friends my own age who were as confused by the world as I was.

katymontgomerie.com•12 hours ago

What a lass 🔥

ruthsedarwrites.bsky.social•8 hours ago

My neighbour is 85 and she's hilarious. Also my dog walking pal is also 85 (possibly 6?) and tells the most outrageously funny stories whenever I see her. Older women are wicked.

jayhulmepoet.bsky.social•12 hours ago

And then we gossiped for an hour and a half, as we so often do.

madelineab.bsky.social•11 hours ago

Growing up there weren't a lot of kids at my church but there were A LOT of older adults. Many of them became my friends and I'm really blessed to have had (and continue to have) those friendships.

tamaraprotassow.bsky.social•5 hours ago

I love them too! I attend a knitting group each Wednesday morning. Two or three of us are 45-50, the rest in their late 60s-80s. One of my very best friends in the group is 84 & we have adventures & shenanigans regularly outside the group. She’s a terror & an icon.

katematthews.bsky.social•3 hours ago

I love this. In my mid twenties, I would regularly hang out with 3 people from church who were between 20 and 40 years older than me. We'd go to the cinema, get lunch, grab coffee. And my life is so much richer for it.

peternimmo.bsky.social•10 hours ago

That's great!

catservant4.bsky.social•11 hours ago

I have been working with lots of older activists lately, people in their 70s, 80s, and a couple of 90s. It's so inspiring to see them reignite with the passion they had fighting for civil rights in the past. They are a treasure trove of ideas and experience. And no f*cks left to give!

mxfrankduffy.bsky.social•12 hours ago

I love that very much about my rural queer friendship groups. A gay friend of mine in his 70s telling me he's increasingly having to censor what he says about his life to his kids (who are my age!)

larripaz.bsky.social•9 hours ago

And when you hang out with older folks you get younger. (Says the person who now sees 30 year olds as kids.)

mrsalty.bsky.social•12 hours ago

That's like, the one good thing about work: where else but work do you organically make friends with someone your grandpa's age?

jayhulmepoet.bsky.social•12 hours ago

I hate to be a Good Christian™ about this, but in my experience the other place is Church.

mrsalty.bsky.social•12 hours ago

Church is great for that too!

I do wish there were an affirming congregation of some sort in my area; if there were I'd probably go, but the culture of this particular neck of Virginia is not particularly conducive to that unfortunately.

betweentheworlds.bsky.social•9 hours ago

Virginia solidarity. ✊🏼

tuftyindigo.bsky.social•10 hours ago

Someone else mentioned choirs but I would say music ensembles in general. Brass-banding and my accordion club have been huge sources of meeting people across generations, social classes, and faiths.

alexander-nowhere.bsky.social•12 hours ago

There's a lot to love about this, but I especially enjoy how "keep having" makes it clear that you are only one of many young men.

jayhulmepoet.bsky.social•12 hours ago

Oh I have absolutely no doubt about that in the SLIGHTEST. She's a force to be reckoned with.

perudaflorit.bsky.social•11 hours ago

Agreed! I've built friendships with women my mother's age and teenagers young enough to be my own kids.

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