I've always tried to be respectful towards autistic friends but I never really thought about how to be more accommodating. What would someone need to change in their behaviour to be better?
Hmm, being mindful with how much noise is being made is always a big one for me! Whenever there's a sudden shout from someone that I'm not expecting as an example, it can be overstimulating
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I wrote an article about this, once, called "Growing up autistic in a non-autistic world." It's amazing how far we bend over backwards for non-autistic people, yet they don't even lift a finger for us. It's always "Just do better" or "You're not trying hard enough".
I’ve stopped going out of my way to be accommodating tbh…I shouldn’t have to sacrifice my comfort in order to make someone else comfy…my feelings deserve to be respected as well…this is more difficult in a corporate environment but I’ve started to try to do that there as well in small doses.
This is a fantastic example of the double empathy problem! At some point, we'll retell the example of the beavers and the squirrels, it's a fun fun metaphor.
I have to rewrite every text I send. I write it and then I go back and add words to make it nice and not blunt or cold. Before my realization of who I am, I just assumed everyone did that.
As an autistic person, no. I don't agree. Doing this all the time for non-autistic people is one of the main ways to grow socially, which helps us function in a competitive society. If we get accommodations, we'll get too comfortable about it.
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