You know what I never understood about breakups right... this is the person you trusted the most, loved the most, told the most, knew the most about you, respected the most, the person you decided you liked so much they should be part of who you are... and then suddenly, they're not even a friend. - ThreadSky

silvixen.bsky.social • 95 days ago

You know what I never understood about breakups right... this is the person you trusted the most, loved the most, told the most, knew the most about you, respected the most, the person you decided you liked so much they should be part of who you are... and then suddenly, they're not even a friend.

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micole-vulpix.bsky.social•94 days ago

It really depends on how the relationship ended, sometimes people reveal parts of themselves that exclude the possibility of staying friends. I'm not saying it's always like this, sometimes people are just petty.

artofjonas.bsky.social•95 days ago

Sometimes after time has passed, they can become your friend again. But yeah, that happens, and it utterly sucks. -_-

bluestreak.bsky.social•95 days ago

It’s tough. Makes it really hard to open yourself back up to someone again.

novatheyeen.bsky.social•95 days ago

I’d say it depends on the circumstances. I’m friends with most of my exes however unfortunately others I can not forgive what they have done to get the cold turkey treatment

barbunicorn.gay•95 days ago

I always try to be friends with all my exes. Some of them are still friends, others decided to ghost me and, sadly, one decided to hurt me as much as she could for the rest of her life.

I still care for all of them (except for the last one)

ari-the-mare.bsky.social•95 days ago

It's hard. I can talk to her and still occasionally catch myself thinking I still love her but there's also a lot of damage done there. Almost a year later and I'm still finding new trauma

blondedingo.bsky.social•95 days ago

Yup, that was my first breakup 5 years ago... It hurts and now i have to deal with both negative and positive thoughts of that past relationship. Even when they propose 'we can still be friends' sounds good on paper, but irl it's very problematic. I hope you are doing vell silvi! *sending hugs*

rewy.bsky.social•95 days ago

One of the reasons why I haven't really dated in a long time.. I haven't spoken to any of my ex's in years.

furfoot.bsky.social•94 days ago

I know how this feels and have the same feelings.

Gone through it twice myself.

oakstone.bsky.social•95 days ago

And it's not even a gradual easing away. It's almost always a cold turkey, guillotine cut that leaves ya dazed and confused. It goes from kind and warm to brutal and cold
I'll never understand how relationships can end like that. All I can do is to make sure I never cause someone that kind of harm🫂

glenmerlin.me•95 days ago

I think it's really sad that not being friends with your ex after a breakup is normal.

Like I understand not being friends for abusive/cheating relationships

but when it's one person not feeling the spark anymore like, you can still vibe as friends

barkleybeaver.bsky.social•90 days ago

This is my biggest fear going into a relationship, especially if they were the one who broke up with me and I still love them.

reginaldvoice.bsky.social•95 days ago

It's an awful injustice to distance from someone who was there for you as the ultimate source of comfort. When I had a breakup I was distant for a little while, but you should never put a loved one aside. I honestly have no idea how anyone could give you up with the joy you bring me during streams.

morganashe.bsky.social•95 days ago

Really just makes me respect those that can be good friends after a breakup tbh. But everyone deals with this stuff differently so space can be a blessing too even if it doesn't feel that way.

jackie-aux-the-fox.fursona.club•95 days ago

Relationships are hard man

But if you're lucky your breakup simply consists of falling out of love, and you at least get to keep them as a friend, and those memories don't turn painful

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