So, white mutuals: what is your answer?
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Muriel Vieux - The Poet
I'd like them to try and define what "the work" is and how they do it.
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And that we need to stand up in the face of it every day. Even when it’s uncomfortable.
I did some reading.
- The White Allies Handbook by Lecia Michelle
- So You Want to Talk About Race by Ijeoma Oluo.
Those were good starting books for me.
I went the elder route and started helping folks in my old building then their senior center. Your NAACP idea is genius!!!
I do my own research and read work by Black writers.
In real life I speak up and challenge racism in white dominated spaces.
I love your idea of going to NAACP meetings. We have a Black Panther chapter here; I need to check if they have regular meetings.
1. Always standing up to misinformation and disinformation, which are rampant.
2. Acting strategically about what is effective in challenging people’s casual and overt racism, because #1 usually isn’t enough.
But I can’t say I’ve been effective. Changing cult minds is very hard but establishing some kind of trust while not violating #1 is threading the needle.
Listening to Black women, keeping my mouth shut and my mind open. Reading things that make me uncomfortable, learning to sit with that discomfort.
Your word should have been enough for her. JFC.
Speak up to other ww bc we have been socialized to not do that. It's uncomfortable! We'll feel guilty! Do it anyways.
I follow black women. I read, try to digest, and don't offer up my opinion because I have way more to learn from them than they do from me. It's been a bumpy ride for me. But my commitment to this isn't based on whether or not someone is impatient with me.
When we have questions, we seek out the info ourselves.
Online, I try to listen more than I speak and not center myself over others
2. Listen.
3. Examine your defensiveness.
4. Shut the fuck up.
5. Listen.
6. Examine your defensiveness.
7. Repeat the above steps until the desire to say, "not all..." does not enter your mind.
8. Now you have a baseline to BEGIN being an ally.
My family is from Mississippi but I was raised in Kenya, so I have been around many many types of non-whites my whole life.. in the minority, even for an important, formative portion of it.
Or the terms passive attentive vs active listening vs passive non attentive listening?
I’m not attacking just having a discussion bc this is what I teach
Listening for facts, emotions, beliefs, values, currency, motivators, and worth
I can write a thread about that sometime
How to ask powerful questions by Chad little field
Truth detector by Jack Schafer
Negotiator the reference for all negotiations by Laurent combalbert and marwan mery
1: listen to respond
2: listen to logic
3: listen for the gist
4: listen to emotion
5. Listening to hear their not your point of view
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