We met online on a forum, she was in a bad situation and would soon not be able to pay her rent. I decided to trust her because she was speaking to another man with a LOT of money and she chose me, the working class dummy. We met nine months later, she moved in with me 5 months after that. - ThreadSky

othiel24.bsky.social • 67 days ago

We met online on a forum, she was in a bad situation and would soon not be able to pay her rent. I decided to trust her because she was speaking to another man with a LOT of money and she chose me, the working class dummy. We met nine months later, she moved in with me 5 months after that.

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othiel24.bsky.social•67 days ago

I think my situation was pretty rare.

othiel24.bsky.social•67 days ago

Was/is

hgeddie.bsky.social•67 days ago

Nice one dude 🙂

Though it is a little ironic that in a thread about the internet making it harder to meet people, you met your partner online 😅

othiel24.bsky.social•67 days ago

I know but her mom was very sick and made poor decisions. It forced her from her home. Like I said, pretty different situation. Not that you can't meet people online, but most don't want to have to. It feels degrading I know because I wasn't trying when I met her, it just fell into place.

othiel24.bsky.social•67 days ago

When I did try, I felt miserable and sad and it made my depression worse.

Thank you very much, I love her dearly.

hgeddie.bsky.social•67 days ago

Funnily enough I think a lot of people will say they met their partner through "luck" or "chance" (or words to that effect) and they miss the effort they themselves put it to have those chances.

othiel24.bsky.social•67 days ago

I was thinking this just before seeing your replies, I guess did work for it. But working out was because I thought I was going to die. My fiance because I liked her a lot and I didn't want her relying on potentially dangerous homeless shelters or other men who'd exploit her. Felt like necessities..

othiel24.bsky.social•67 days ago

..needing to be met instead of trying. Thank you for thinking so, I finally do feel a little bit of pride in myself.

Anyway, I'm not asking women to blow random men in bathrooms, just please stop saying you'll never help them with glee and malice. I STILL see it everywhere. 10 years later.

hgeddie.bsky.social•67 days ago

You might feel it 'just happened' but you've also listed several things you were doing to improve your opportunities, even by accident. Working out, eating better, even just talking to people on forums improves your communication skills.

hgeddie.bsky.social•67 days ago

I've also done that, putting effort into specifically finding a partner feels very degrading, but not putting effort into it reduces those opportunities. I'm currently trying to find that balance between giving myself opportunities and not being made absolutely miserable by the process. It's tricky.

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