Being genderfluid sometimes feels like having one foot in the cis world and one foot in the trans world, but not fully belonging to either. Like a square peg in a round hole either way.
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Whenever I feel this way I like to think of myself as a hexagon, since I was never going to fit in either category
Sometimes if I’m feeling a bit more round than square, I’ll pick an octagon. I like the shape less because it doesn’t properly tile, but as a concept of grid movement it works for me
I've come to view my gender as more like a wave, with ebbs and flows. Not anything I can actively control, which leaves me one option: learn how to surf.
Hell yeah, flood all the holes and move on from all those annoying things that would force you to be any one thing for longer than the moment calls for!
If you were to ask me the difference between agender and genderfluid, I’d say my previous post compared to this one/yours.
I enjoyed both experiences. I think it wasn’t until I started working on unlearning mannerisms and unmasking (and therapy) that my fluidity was something I could surf rather than try to contain into any kind of shape so I had something solid to hold on to
It really is! It's challenging, for sure, but so rewarding, especially in unexpected ways. I don't think I was ever really fully in tune with my masculinity until I started reckoning with my fluidity.
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Sometimes if I’m feeling a bit more round than square, I’ll pick an octagon. I like the shape less because it doesn’t properly tile, but as a concept of grid movement it works for me
If you were to ask me the difference between agender and genderfluid, I’d say my previous post compared to this one/yours.
I’m still getting the hang of it. It’s fun!