Had my therapy session last night. Coming to grips that I have been prone to attract narcissists my entire life has not been an easy pill to swallow. I'm actually really mad about it.
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When I asked why a narcissist used me, my counselor said, “they need people who express feelings, have empathy, are creative, can commit, get things done because narcissists are incapable of any of that.”
I felt better because I want all of those qualities. Now I want to spot narcissists faster.
Good for you!! It's hard but it gets easier with her. Now I just have to figure out how to get over from the asshole who manipulated me out of $20k & stop blaming myself for it
Absolutely. My ex stoped contributing and like a dummy I kept carrying him. Don’t kick yourself. Our traumatized central nervous systems didn’t give us many options.
My ex felt different bc he was so self-deprecating, but he had lots of covert narcissism going on. Lots of victim, passive aggressive stuff. And so many lies.
Right there with you. I should have been in therapy for decades, but I'm old now, and it's just to late to bother with. I won't live long enough to see any positive effects.
But all my life, I attracted narcissists. And one broke me, badly.
This one tried but I finally had enough this week and just blocked him completely. I'm grateful for my therapist because I don't think I would have been able to get this far without her.
The one that broke me (and I don't mean money, I mean mentally/emotionally) was long ago, before I even really knew what a narcissist was, or what the warning signs were.
Please don’t be too hard on yourself. They are smooth. They treat you like gold, and it’s so beguiling you don’t notice the hook in your mouth until they’ve reeled you in. Then they reveal themselves and the gaslighting starts.
I used to attract narc friends and boyfriends. I still struggle with breaking out of being a people pleaser, and that's who they target. You're an amazing empathetic person, and they're the broken ones💙
Yeah I get it I'm just trying very hard to not allow anyone to change me. I like me. It's important that nobody has that type of effect on how I move but it's hard.
it isn’t your fault and it isn’t on YOU when they come into your life.
you may be more vulnerable to them, but think of that as a fact, no “faults”. you’re like a light they can’t resist as insects. you don’t condemn the light for shining, which is attracting them.
You didn't know what you didn't know. Lies are their default. And they are master deceivers. You will heal. Please know this. Show yourself grace every step of the way. The power is in knowing the real now. You can't unknow, what you know now. Stay strong.You're on your way back to your peace! 🫶🏾
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I'm married to a narcissistic gaslighting liar, so I understand the pain.
Have you ever heard of Dr Ramani?
She has a youtube channel that literally saved my sanity.
Wrote a book called It's Not You.
She's an expert on narcissism & everything involved with it.
💕💕💕
I felt better because I want all of those qualities. Now I want to spot narcissists faster.
I’m glad you’re free.
But all my life, I attracted narcissists. And one broke me, badly.
I gave up dating a decade and a half ago.
but it helps to start knowing so you can start to protect your energy - feels better
Still a lot to navigate I am right there with you
you may be more vulnerable to them, but think of that as a fact, no “faults”. you’re like a light they can’t resist as insects. you don’t condemn the light for shining, which is attracting them.
keep shining, just be aware.
It's still a struggle to have healthy relationships and not lose myself.
Don't be too hard on yourself. Just remember they targeted us because we had good hearts, too good sometimes ❤️
It gets better, the wound heals.