if you loved someone's writing and you now find out that their sexual ethics are awful to you...
I just want to say that it says nothing about you that you loved their work and nothing about you that you learned from the work.
if the work 'changed your life', consider that you did that yourself.
I just want to say that it says nothing about you that you loved their work and nothing about you that you learned from the work.
if the work 'changed your life', consider that you did that yourself.
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I think you've hit something important with the reader's participation in the work.
People's character, can also change over time. If we can believe in any form of improvement, from self-help to addiction & recovery to criminal rehab, we must also believe in the reverse. So many struggling…
…artists who create a masterpiece suddenly go from having nothing to having everything. When carry the anxiety & trauma of social weakness into positions of huge social power, it changes them.
They didn't lose their goodness & humanity as children. For many, it only comes after their best work.
sometimes we write the books we most need to read. we put into the world the parts of ourselves which most tell us the ways in which we are falling short.
The worst part is when it’s artists/writers I believed were better people. End up feeling let down and irked by smug people lying that “they always knew” 😞
Humans always human. We are flawed creatures. One can create a great work & be a horrible person just as the opposite.
If people can’t separate the two & then realize it’s not a reflection on them … that’s just lack of maturity.
people pretend they always knew because it is easier than admitting that we are powerless and abuse can happen to *anyone*.