I gotta be honest, I heard about the “HRT makes you cry and have actual FEELINGS” thing for years and it just bums me out bc im like. Do I not have feelings now? Am I just pretending? And youre telling me what theyve been talking about is… crying when they hear good music??? - ThreadSky

garmore.bsky.social • 22 days ago

I gotta be honest, I heard about the “HRT makes you cry and have actual FEELINGS” thing for years and it just bums me out bc im like. Do I not have feelings now? Am I just pretending?

And youre telling me what theyve been talking about is… crying when they hear good music???

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blaisethebrash.bsky.social•22 days ago

Testosterone can make it difficult for some people to recognize their feelings. Its not really that they arent there, it's more like they're not always *apparent*. So I could feel my emotions, but i had no idea what i was feeling.

kate.cishet.net•22 days ago

A lot of it is because pre-transition our emotions are repressed, and also testosterone can transmute what could be sadness into rage or anger. But I still don’t really cry at all on E; it’s gone from “never” to “once every couple months”

garmore.bsky.social•22 days ago

So Im NOT feeling Real Girl Feelings then? That’s a bummer.

kate.cishet.net•22 days ago

No, quite the opposite actually. There’s actually no such thing as feeling “like a girl”, tbh. Some girls’ emotions change a lot on HRT, some not at all. But we’re all still women/femmes. Just because you’re not crying at commercials for laundry detergent doesn’t mean you’re a failed woman.

garmore.bsky.social•22 days ago

I’d just been thinking about it for years because like. If HRT “fixed these other girls and now they can cry” I have to wonder if the crying and the sad that I have NOW is a shallow imitation

taffywabbit.bsky.social•22 days ago

nah it's not so much that "you don't feel REAL emotions til you're on Girl Hormones", it's that people who were deeply emotionally repressed before HRT often find it helps undo that damage and lets their emotions flow freely again. if you didn't already have that problem then there's nothing to fix

taffywabbit.bsky.social•22 days ago

that's kinda why I kept trying to clarify what the point of my post was, actually - while I'm def happy for the folks saying "I already used to cry a lot and now I'm extra sensitive to [x]", the point here for ME is that my physical impulse to cry was COMPLETELY broken between the ages of like 12-27

ysterbunny.bsky.social•22 days ago

kinda just repeating what taffy said, but I am one of those girls that has experienced significant emotional changes on hrt

but its not actually that I am feeling them more or differently; i just absolutely REFUSED to feel these emotions when I was denying my own identity.

ysterbunny.bsky.social•22 days ago

its not that hrt is generating new emotions I didn't have before, rather I am just *finally* beginning to work through the emotions that I refused to acknowledge before.

hrt just happened to be the thing to help me realize that the emotion was there all along, I was just in denial

kate.cishet.net•22 days ago

nah. it’s real.

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