It is indeed sad that this has to be said. Unless its a fanevent… leave folks alone. Like it‘s great if you run into them by chance. Maybe wave or something and then go your merry way. Mention it maybe later to them that it was you. In case it may cause confusion. BUT! DO. NOT. SEEK. THEM. - ThreadSky

stargazingsky.bsky.social • 8 days ago

It is indeed sad that this has to be said.
Unless its a fanevent… leave folks alone. Like it‘s great if you run into them by chance. Maybe wave or something and then go your merry way. Mention it maybe later to them that it was you. In case it may cause confusion.

BUT! DO. NOT. SEEK. THEM.

Reposted from Sneb🔥

Im sad that I have to say this, but please don't seek out people you know or watch at casual events

If Im going to a party, its not to network, its not a meet and greet, please respect my boundaries, I am a real person, oftentimes I am already very anxious at irl events

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stargazingsky.bsky.social•8 days ago

Especially if they are just out to meet with friends.
As a viewer or fan…you are not a friend or a person close to them. It makes folks with anxiety such as OP or myself super uncomfortable when we get approached by strangers.

Friendship builds over time.. and just because the person is nice to you

stargazingsky.bsky.social•8 days ago

on streams or recognises ur handle, does not mean you are buddy buddy. You are an aquaintance at best…a stranger irl at worst.

Leave them the fuck alone unless its a fanevent, a meet and greet or a convention. Then yes they expect to be maybe recognised and approached.
But not in a bar/party,

stargazingsky.bsky.social•8 days ago

where they just wanna meet up with friends.
Like…. what the hell is wrong with you?!

Also friendly reminder that not everyone is an extrovert.
Many streamers and artist I know are rather introverted and parties/clubs are usually already spiking our anxiety. We don‘t need nosy folks to make it worse

sodasneb.live•8 days ago

Yeah like I love when people come say hi, but not in a "cornering me and getting mad Im not following you" way 😞

And then post-event blaming me because I shouldnt be at events if I dont want to be bothered in that way 😭

stargazingsky.bsky.social•8 days ago

This is what I mean. Like… I probably would wave or maaaaybe say hi. But thats it.

People need to learn that no matter how popular/famous a person is: THEY OWE YOU NOTHING!
They dont owe you recognition nor an interaction.

I despise this kind of entitlement.

sodasneb.live•8 days ago

yeah it really puts a damper on an otherwise nice night with my friends

stargazingsky.bsky.social•8 days ago

Pretty much… and also they dont realise that you feel much less inclined to do actual meetups when people behave like this…

I‘m really sorry that happened.
I tend to fangirl about people too… but its more… I wanna raise them in the air and be like „LOOK AT THIS AWESOME PERSON!“

stargazingsky.bsky.social•8 days ago

But actually running up to them irl and be like that? HELL NO!
I would explode in social anxiety…
Like I wouldn‘t like that either, why would I do it to others?

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