I can somewhat understand him not knowing women who are into casual sex (and feel safe telling him about it). But to think that women don't enjoy *kissing*?
He's talking about women not wanting to have intimate contact with "attractive strangers". Has he asked himself if he's really that attractive? And is he approaching random women thinking he should be getting sudden makeout sessions? So much to unpack.
"...with attractive strangers..." WTF?! That sentence jumps out and is very troubling. IMO, I have never immediately made out with any "attractive stranger."
Women have a lot more to lose if they have casual sex, so careful consideration and trust are always a part of the equation, no matter how horny. This is for their safety and well being ye psycho!
Not true for most women, men are dangerous and being vulnerable makes it hard. If contraceptives are expensive or hard to come by, the risk is also pregnancy. We can agree to disagree. I speak to a broader of women than white middle class. WOC are ofte targeted for harm because no-one cares.
I agree that many men are dangerous. What I disagreed with was your statement that “careful consideration and trust” are always part of the decision to have sex.
Is spoiling us some kind of male fantasy? He sounds like a geezer and the other number was probably his wife's phone. Although, I'd rather be spoiled than deal with the young guys today who think they don't have to contribute anything to a relationship.
Funniest bit of the "If Books Could Kill" episode on the Five Love Languages: dudes who think sex for women is categorized as "Acts of Service" rather than "Physical Intimacy".
A lot of folks think men's urges are just sort of "mechanically" triggered by seeing a conventionally attractive woman, but in fact there's an underlying, and relatively complex, emotional response going on, which relates broadly to our relationship to women. We just don't talk about it.
The stereotypical man is in fact not made horny by a woman's body, but rather by fantasies about fairly ephemeral dynamics, such as social status, which is where the whole dominance/submission framework comes from.
Women's physical appearance acts like a signifier of social status.
Most guys really just want a woman who is too good for us but is somehow grateful to be with us, because that makes us feel like we're finally worth something. 😅
The problem some men have is that their lack of insight makes it hard to relate to women *even* in areas where women are similar to us.
So we either don't like sex bc we need only emotions, or we all hoes and fucking everyone around - and this shit perfectly sits in one head of typical tate's cultist🤡
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(They could also be being an asshole)
My money's on the latter.
Like dude, it's generally not cool to just walk up to women and try to make out.
women are willy nilly about their safety and security, but for sure there are some who are.
It's just that, at least in our culture, men and women tend to have different emotional responses that drive their urges.
Women's physical appearance acts like a signifier of social status.
The problem some men have is that their lack of insight makes it hard to relate to women *even* in areas where women are similar to us.
It's almost as if different women have different preferences when it comes to physical intimacy
I guess we'll never know...