i am actually much louder and meaner now than i ever was pre-transition where i strived to make myself as small as possible and was constantly told, by men, to stop talking so much and would get threatened for sticking up for myself - ThreadSky

faerynnistired.itch.io • 119 days ago

i am actually much louder and meaner now than i ever was pre-transition where i strived to make myself as small as possible and was constantly told, by men, to stop talking so much and would get threatened for sticking up for myself

Reposted from Typewriter Monke

INCORRECT: Trans women have received Male Socialization and will reproduce patterns of behaviour associated with men

CORRECT: Trans women tend towards the psychological profile you'd expect from women who've been gaslit about their own sense of identity throughout their formative years.

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faerynnistired.itch.io•119 days ago

me being a “mean dyke” now years into transition is a direct result of finding my own humanity within myself—my very sense of self even—and fighting tooth and nail against a hostile and unjust world that seeks to deny me the personhood… the womanhood… i have carved out for myself

faerynnistired.itch.io•119 days ago

i saw woman after woman, my sisters, get told they were fetishizing women for continuing to try and make themselves small—for trying to play by society’s rules they still get called “male socialized” and playing a “misogynistic caricature.”

faerynnistired.itch.io•119 days ago

i get told i am male socialized because i say “fuck you” to misogynists who think i should just shut up and be their abusable punching bag.

there is no winning. people will construct trans women as “male women who need to unpack their male socialization” no matter what we do or how we act

faerynnistired.itch.io•119 days ago

and we are never believed when we rip open our hearts and bear our trauma for all to see… when we talk
about how we were raped and beaten and abused. we are called liars and deceivers.

we do not get epistemological justice—we are “biased” sources regarding our own lives. an inconvenient snag +

faerynnistired.itch.io•119 days ago

bare our trauma*

faerynnistired.itch.io•119 days ago

in the minds of people who have already constructed trans women a certain way—someone who has already stripped us of our humanity and cast us as purely as an abusable “monster” or abusable “fuck doll.” (maybe both!)

anarchygoose.bsky.social•119 days ago

I had a severe martyr complex prior to coming out. I not only didn't believe that my needs had value, I thought my value was in living wholly and completely for other people and repressing my needs was good.

This is not unusual among trans women I've spoken to. And people get used to it.

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