People got so used to replies being filled with anger that they crave it. Balanced and calm debate can happen on a site like this but Twitter broke our brains into thinking if it wasn't 'spicy' it wasn't a debate. I don't want tension or anger. I want adults in the room with respect and empathy. - ThreadSky

j0toro.bsky.social • 138 days ago

People got so used to replies being filled with anger that they crave it. Balanced and calm debate can happen on a site like this but Twitter broke our brains into thinking if it wasn't 'spicy' it wasn't a debate.

I don't want tension or anger. I want adults in the room with respect and empathy.

Reposted from koenfucius

Like many Twitter exiles to Bluesky, @mikemakowsky.bsky.social feels there’s something lacking. He voices my thoughts better than I could: https://buff.ly/3BQbqBX

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shynieke.nl•138 days ago

I think the lack of anger, hate and negativity here is a blessing and I am so glad to basically have decided to be active here, I'll still check the other site every so often until all gamedevs I know are here :)

roisintherose.bsky.social•138 days ago

Agreed, It's completely okay to disagree with someone. I'd never really discuss things with people on the other platform as they sadly always ended in bitterness or sly jabs, and there's ways to have debates without being childish.

why-not-zoidberg.bsky.social•138 days ago

Thank you for showing an easy way to find accounts to block preemptively.

amphipodgirl.bsky.social•137 days ago

Agreed! I would not want to sit in a room and have conversations that are like X/twit threads; why would I want to do that with strangers on the internet?

airdthesoldier.bsky.social•137 days ago

I will admit, I am a victim of this.
I got so used to the sheer brain rotting irony in Twitter, that when I didn't find it here, I thought I disliked it.

What I didn't realize is it's just people being passionate about what they love. Something I can do too!

crewgles.bsky.social•138 days ago

I disagree! The blue paint taste better then the green one (this is how it feels lol)

hullandpoonie.bsky.social•138 days ago

"I like pancakes !"

- "So, what you're saying is, you HATE waffles ?!"

😂

crewgles.bsky.social•138 days ago

How dare XD

ericravenwolf.bsky.social•137 days ago

I get anxious when shitty people pop up on my replies

safire224.bsky.social•137 days ago

Nothing wrong with differences in opinion but it’s how the conversation progresses and understanding respectable debate. It’s how change and compromise happens, and it’s normal. However, I am sick of twitter being full of anger and bots in the comments that do nothing but stir problems.

bloodyripley.bsky.social•137 days ago

Agree

arrvocado.bsky.social•138 days ago

I hate how much we normalised toxicity to the point where so many conflate it with being passionate. And that just doesn’t sit right with me

thelaststraw.bsky.social•137 days ago

Idk. I guess it's who you follow. I see condescending tones and some angered skeets. But for the most part it's been calm. Gets a little heated over on indigenous sky. But we have a lot of colonizers to correct.

j0toro.bsky.social•137 days ago

I truly hope it stays that way. The blog post discusses missing the tension but I'm all for leaving it in the other place.

thelaststraw.bsky.social•137 days ago

I easily block 20 to 50 accounts for every single account I follow. I'm not missing anything important!

lucidflesh.bsky.social•138 days ago

On Twitter I encountered so many people that started on 100% heat when we disagreed. And turned out to be ok people when we got the heat down.
Social media with character limit is just a bad space for that type of arguing, and I try to not engage with it lol

j0toro.bsky.social•138 days ago

I absolutely agree. A character limit and text based reactionary conversation is never the best space for it, but I still think there is an elemen of people just needing to take a step back and breathe before engaging, consider their words and then respond to try and remove some of that heat.

chezident.bsky.social•137 days ago

The people who want this invariably list their education as "the School of Hard Knocks" and their personalities as "brutally honest" whenever they take a quiz.

hullandpoonie.bsky.social•138 days ago

A debate could be as simple as "I don't fully agree, but I understand your point." and leave it at that...

j0toro.bsky.social•138 days ago

100% this! And if you want to be 'challenged' then fine but you can challenge a belief without being a knob. And no one has a right to enter anyone's space and be rude, crude or hateful and call it 'telling it as it is' or 'debating'.

hullandpoonie.bsky.social•138 days ago

Even 'telling it as it is' is still (mostly) a point of view.
But the way you're telling it does A LOT.

Then again, we can't control how people read comments in their heads.
You can read "This is great." in a happy voice 😄 or a sarcastic voice 😒.

Even a genuine "Why ?" can be read as judgemental.

j0toro.bsky.social•138 days ago

This! It's not WHAT you say it's HOW you say it! You can 'tell it like it is' and have empathy for the human your are talking to and realise they are also just existing and are also...not you.

linnlaio.bsky.social•137 days ago

Well put! I appreciate politeness and good manners! I grow very bored when insults are thrown around.

marcelotanisho.bsky.social•137 days ago

This is true. I thought it was so weird when the first dumb stuff I commented here people just laughed it off instead of calling me a shithead who doesn’t deserve to live. So weird.

bisky.alyxxtherat.com•138 days ago

A lot of us Twitter exiled want to get away from that kind of discourse so let's not bring it here.

thelaststraw.bsky.social•137 days ago

When you see it, block it and do not engage. Worked for the first 5 million users. It'll keep working!

bisky.alyxxtherat.com•137 days ago

100%

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