Despair is the only cure for illusion. Without despair we cannot transfer our allegiance to reality - it's a kind of mourning period for our fantasies. Some people do not survive this despair, but no major change within a person can occur w/out it.~Philip Elliot Slater, 𝘌𝘢𝘳𝘵𝘩𝘸𝘢𝘭𝘬