Pretty much every one I know who's my age is going through personal shit whether it's relationships, kids, parents, health, money and dear me *now* I understand why people buy sports cars and do mad shit cos middle age is just relentless.
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On a related note - assuming we can't all buy sports cars - what are the little things you do for yourself to keep sane/find joy?
Mine are:
Buying flowers for myself.
A 20-30 min walk with my headphones in and/or driving with good music full blast.
Cinema - can truly switch off there.
Yup. Not to make other people's problems all about me or anything but this last week or so I've just felt I've had zero head space and some of the things I've heard are just super heavy and I've felt out of my depth just listening.
And then wracked with doubt about whether I've said the right thing...
One thing I'd say I've learned though is about not reaching breaking point. Hard though when there's things riding on you. But as my dad wisely says "an empty sack won't stand up".
I suppose I could give the trousers a try, but I don’t think I could bear the cringe of the ‘affair with someone 25 years younger and desperate’. Not getting a motorbike either…
Isn’t it though? I’m exhausted.
Yesterday, I genuinely just wanted to jump in a camper van and fuck off.
Is it worse for women do you think? It seems to be in my experience.
Oooh that's interesting! You've got me thinking now.
(Also would love to see demographics of camper van owners crossed with the levels of stress they had before buying)
Haha.
For me, although Mr Rows is a great Dad, it’s still me that runs the household, and organises everyone.
I’m also the one left to look after aging parent, as brothers moved away, like it was always going to be my responsibility. Women get the shit straw a lot of the time.
Had a chat with my boss recently and I thank god they're understanding and have helped me to restructure my work so at least that's one thing less to worry about.
I generally don't share my personal life on socials, except one really serious thing which I shared with a few people I trusted. But yeah, this last 3-4 years has been relentless and there's no let up. It's just constant. But, we bat on. Keep moving forward. It's the only way.
Same. I suppose one good thing has been realising the importance of finding joy in the small things too, and that "self-care" isn't an indulgence but a necessity. (I cringe at self care. I just mean doing *something* for yourself, whatever that may be)
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Mine are:
Buying flowers for myself.
A 20-30 min walk with my headphones in and/or driving with good music full blast.
Cinema - can truly switch off there.
One thing I'd say I've learned though is about not reaching breaking point. Hard though when there's things riding on you. But as my dad wisely says "an empty sack won't stand up".
Yesterday, I genuinely just wanted to jump in a camper van and fuck off.
Is it worse for women do you think? It seems to be in my experience.
(Also would love to see demographics of camper van owners crossed with the levels of stress they had before buying)
For me, although Mr Rows is a great Dad, it’s still me that runs the household, and organises everyone.
I’m also the one left to look after aging parent, as brothers moved away, like it was always going to be my responsibility. Women get the shit straw a lot of the time.
Had a chat with my boss recently and I thank god they're understanding and have helped me to restructure my work so at least that's one thing less to worry about.