As a German, telling people „no“ is my favorite thing in the world. I’m always surprised by other cultures being much more agreeable than us lol
(also to a German „no“ isn’t hurtful btw, it’s polite even. It’s trying to be respectful about everyone’s time and resources)
(also to a German „no“ isn’t hurtful btw, it’s polite even. It’s trying to be respectful about everyone’s time and resources)
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Lauren Walsh 🔜 ECCC #20311
I always tell those trying to get into freelance that saying no to a project is the most powerful tool in your kit. I’m realizing now that this applies to so many more facets of our lives. Gaslighting often removes that ability to say no to someone leaving you feeling stripped of power and agency
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"Doch!"
"Oh!"
Mit jedem der deutsch lernen will wieder auf's Neue. 💀
If someone asks me something I'll cheerfully say 'no' with zero malice behind it, and expect the same from others.
But if I say 'yes' to something?
I'm there, hell, high water, snow, ice, or hurricanes.
Anyway, I'm trying to be better about saying "no." You help bolden me, really.
🙂🤝🙂
If you mean in media and stuff tho, then yes.
It's what happens when Vikings learn Latin and then use it to shout at Germans.
No isn't allowed under such circumstances.
NB there is a certain truth here. All forms of verbs apart from the imperative disappeared from English between 1066 and
nah we just don’t tippy toe around unnecessary stuff.
And even if I try to put on 25 layers of sugar and sprinkles for UK/US, they still will be like 'oh you are so blunt :O' 💀
(the only place I lived where people thought it was kind was Japan, as in 'we worry about your health so we tell you' type of way)
Maybe it's the result of my upbringing, but I've grown up deathly afraid of disappointing/upsetting others, so I've always been a bit of a "yes man"--to a fault, at that.
I need to be able to politely put myself first if I want to get by. Learning this lesson in my 30s. 😒
jk, ich weiss für manche von uns ist es trotzdem schwer. Kommt auch zusätzlich noch auf die Region an denke ich.
Aber ich hoffe du findest dein inneres Nö 🧡💀