🧵 I think one of the biggest misconceptions I see is that people think of sex between sides as inherently different than that with penetration when it's not. As sides, you just don't enjoy the penetration part but you still enjoy the other stuff and that 'other stuff' isn't exclusively for sides. 1/ - ThreadSky

sidesof.bsky.social • 84 days ago

🧵 I think one of the biggest misconceptions I see is that people think of sex between sides as inherently different than that with penetration when it's not. As sides, you just don't enjoy the penetration part but you still enjoy the other stuff and that 'other stuff' isn't exclusively for sides. 1/

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sidesof.bsky.social•84 days ago

"Sex" as an umbrella term is for acts that count as 'sexual activity' between two or more people and can be split into two categories. Intercourse, which people use interchangeably (wrong) for sex but it really only is for penetrative sex. [penis/anus, penis/vagina] 2/

sidesof.bsky.social•84 days ago

As sides, we don't like intercourse for multiple reasons, not comfortable, not appealing whatever it may be and would rather enjoy other stuff
All the other stuff we do, falls under Outercourse: rimming, mutual JO, BJ, frotting, etc. Basically every other sex act that does not require penetration 3/

sidesof.bsky.social•84 days ago

But -huge but here- outercourse, which I've seen people label as 'side play,' is something that top/bottom/vers guys can also enjoy. They're not acts necessarily reserved for sides. I also see non-sides refer to that as foreplay. 4/

sidesof.bsky.social•84 days ago

And foreplay is a great term, only for when the end goal is penetration because foreplay is there to help people get relaxed and in the mood because penetration can be a bit taxing on the body and mind but as sides, that term can be misleading because other people will come to expect penetration. 5/

sidesof.bsky.social•84 days ago

All in all, the terms 'side play' and 'foreplay' are two that can be misleading when conversing about sex when we have a better term for it ("outercourse") that describes things literally and doesn't put any pressure onto anyone. 6/

sidesof.bsky.social•84 days ago

I don't write this to police anyone, nor to tell people to stop calling themselves 'part sides,' because I don't really care for that. In the end, labels are just guides and the human mind is just so complex, trying to put every aspect of life into discrete boxes is nearly impossible 7/

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