So, a white lady at work asked me, “boy, where’s the outpatient pharmacy?”
She was a woman of “advanced years” so I walked her over.
Should I have?
Been so accommodating?
She was a woman of “advanced years” so I walked her over.
Should I have?
Been so accommodating?
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I think you did the right thing, the high road has a nice view.
Native American History. I think you will have a very eager audience here on Bluesky.
I’d think something like:
“M’am, I’d be happy to help you, but please note - I am not your boy, and I appreciate when people speak with respect. Now let’s find that pharmacy for you.” 👏
Be you.
Don't let other's behavior dictate your character.
You could have slapped her face as easily as you walked her over.
Do you, sir.
She grew up in a time when it was ok to say that. She likely doesn’t know any better at this point, however, it doesn’t mean you have to like it.
🙏
Young man...
Excuse me...
Hey handsome... (j/k)
You help her, extend her the grace she doesn’t have, and move on, because you’re not like her.💕
You did a good thing.
Helpful, yet mistaken.
one is an older person thinking anyone looking younger than 50 might qualify as young, like 'he looks like a good boy'
the other is exactly what most of us assume
tone & demeanor will tell the difference
whichever it might have been, you did the right thing
Also, "politely" is a subjective descriptor.
There is power in learning to ignore. Bravo to you Lakota Man👏
Aesop, “Androcles and the Lion”
But in this case sure, be kind to the old gal.
You are better and operating at a higher level than she is. Why come down to her level?
I am sorry that she was so disrespectful to you. You showed her kindness.
My grandmother, upon entering her advanced dementia stages, started to let slip the decades of racism she tried so hard to suppress during my youth.
Always read your stuff on Twitter, always inspiring and often funny as hell :))
I did a specific search to find you :)
It is up to you to decide when to let bad behaviour like that pass and when to call them out.
Face her, make eye contact, make yourself as large as possible, and say (firmly but politely) “I beg your pardon!?” Make her repeat her slur!!
I'm sorry
You should do what makes your heart not hurt💙
Same thing I posted on the yucky place 😎💙
But I wouldn't miss to make clear your position/rank and THEN walk her over.
Hate/unkindness is a double edge sword that hurts everyone.
I think you were raised right and have good manners.
It's a nightly nonstop white privilege parade
Now, Show that reality on a weekly Hospital Drama
And perhaps the cultural needle will move forward