I think what gender conforming ppl never get about most gender noncornforming ppl is: our bodies just are this way. Some of us stop trying to change the way we are for made up reasons. Generations of plastic & industrial pollutants & it's MY fault my genes express themselves the way they do? - ThreadSky

azure-slimecat.bsky.social • 38 days ago

I think what gender conforming ppl never get about most gender noncornforming ppl is: our bodies just are this way.

Some of us stop trying to change the way we are for made up reasons.

Generations of plastic & industrial pollutants & it's MY fault my genes express themselves the way they do?

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azure-slimecat.bsky.social•38 days ago

Half of gay and queer joy is "i don't have to fight how i am"

We don't choose anything but to be ourselves, to not spend every moment as an act to please people whose bodies perform "typically".

But my partner made a point: maybe gender conforming ppl know they also are close to failing?

azure-slimecat.bsky.social•38 days ago

If we could all just be who we are and mind our own business, it feels like things would be so much better.

A lot of y'all need the long lost art of not giving a fuck about others, and keeping your own house in order.

But that seems lost on society in general today.

songbir.de•38 days ago

I want to share a story from my life here that your thoughts reminded me of. I think you're touching on a fear that a lot of gender-conforming people have regarding social rejection. I also want to add my voice to yours to like, force-multiply.

songbir.de•38 days ago

Before I was out, honestly before I knew I was going to transition (as I was convinced that for me, it was impossible), some 'friends' had an actual bet with a real pot over what kind of 'queer' I was.

They mean to say nothing I ever did was good enough? I couldn't have convinced them if I wanted!

songbir.de•38 days ago

When I asked their evidence they'd mention the strangest things: Simple facets of myself, things I couldn't have policed if I wanted to like a laugh or a smile. Or apparently, my hips and how I walked. One mentioned that I was 'nice' as his reason.

The standard for 'cis/het' seems hard to meet. 🤣

songbir.de•38 days ago

And I think that's the core of it: The cis/het folks have set the standards so high for cis/het that they turn into monsters when your existence reminds them of some unchangeable facet about who they are that, if other cis/het people notice, they'll start being subject to the same kind of scrutiny.

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