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"Family is everything" is a tactic toxic families have used forever to drown out family members who dare to break the cycle of abuse. #CSA #SA #mentalhealth #traumahealing #SurvivorSky

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Survivor: You are THROUGH the worst. You're here, now. Well done. Your chances of safety are improved. There is help to get there.

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Trauma hasn't made me stronger. A big part of my ability to regulate my emotions is frozen in childhood. It's something I have to learn to practice over and over again, because I lost my formative years. #csa #abuse #recovery

submitted 61 days ago • 1 comment

Had a creative and healing period, followed by a triggering event over the holidays and week of on and off insomnia. Still not sleeping very well.

submitted 61 days ago • 0 comments

They're here too. I've reported accounts made by kids with #csam on bsky already. Twitter/Discord/Insta/etc are cesspits for it. This is a type of grooming that most aren't familiar with yet, and that needs to change. #csa #csasurvivorsky #grooming

submitted 72 days ago • 0 comments

If you are an artist struggling with a nagging discomfort or pain when you work. Stop. Go and get that shit checked out and start doing recommended, corrective exercises. It will not get better if you just push through. It will get worse and harder to correct. Please take care of yourself.

submitted 74 days ago • 104 comments

they should invent a mode of storing your body that isn't sitting, standing, kneeling, laying down, or leaning

submitted 74 days ago • 37 comments

You don't have to "believe in yourself" at all times in trauma recovery. You're gonna doubt yourself. I doubt myself. It happens. It's normal. Here's what I DO always believe, though: in every moment of decision, I CAN make a choice, even a small one, that supports my recovery.

submitted 75 days ago • 1 comment

I like this

submitted 74 days ago • 2 comments

#homeless #unhoused #harmreduction

submitted 74 days ago • 355 comments

The space dust… David Jones.

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Let the world understand what happens when sexual predators are not held accountable. This should never have happened. It must not happen again #pelicot #shamemustchangesides #rapeculture #csa www.theguardian.com/world/2024/d...

submitted 76 days ago • 1 comment

I was 9 when my abuser raped me in my own home. Other family members were in the house. It is hard to imagine how he took the risk, but he did. He was sure of my silence. I didn’t tell anyone what happened until 30 years later. I’m pretty sure he didn’t expect me to publish it in a book. 1/

submitted 76 days ago • 5 comments

How many people have come out of churches/religions/cults and spoken out about the severity of the child abuse coverups? What have we done to curb this problem? Seriously .....WHAT HAVE WE DONE? Sign the Child Rights Act Petition! change.org/ChildRightsAct 💠 #GoodTrouble 💠 #USAChildRightsAct

submitted 76 days ago • 47 comments

I hope that if it's grooming talking, he heals. But #csa is material harm. It can't be reframed or given new meaning. If you get stabbed, it's just harm. If you get brainwashed by a cult, it's harm. How the world could be different if survivors were treated the same. 12/12 #csasurvivorsky #abuse

submitted 74 days ago • 0 comments

So I'm sorry to Jack, but I can't let his words go unchallenged. There's too much at stake. 11/? #csa #csasurvivorsky #abuse

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They have their own spaces on the clearnet where they get together and get their talking points straight, and this post is gold for them. "Secondary harm! See, the normies can see it too!" I hope that they won't show Jack's post to a victim, but I know them too well to believe it. 10/? #csa

submitted 74 days ago • 0 comments

I don't know how Jack came to this conclusion, and I'm sorry if it's because of grooming. No one deserves it. But Jack has a big platform here, and his words have power that he can't see. The pedos of bsky who follow our tags for fun will eat it up. 9/? #csa #csasurvivorsky #abuse

submitted 74 days ago • 0 comments

Society can sometimes find a fuck to give about the first, but struggles with the second. The adultification of the child who behaves sexually because of their conditioning makes people blame them for their abuse. They can't see beyond their adult perception of the behavior. 8/? #csa #csasurvivorsky

submitted 74 days ago • 0 comments

I've seen and met so many people who feel this. It's difficult to understand if you haven't been through it, and it leaves us in pain for the rest of our lives. I've had both: a rapist who held me down, and a "sweet" friend who taught me to walk willingly into their arms. 7/? #csa #csasurvivorsky

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I've spent countless hours of therapy trying to teach myself that it wasn't my fault. I understand it intellectually. I don't understand it deep in the heart of my fractured inner child, and that's not something I will change easily. 6/? #csa #csasurvivorsky #abuse

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This leaves the child with guilt and shame that they don't deserve, because they've been made to feel complicit. The process of grooming leaves deep roots that we haven't got the maturity to heal as a society. But we don't hear that much about that. 5/? #csa #csasurvivorsky #abuse

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In the mind of a young person without the life experience to see it, this is a reasonable argument. It facilitates a bond and gives the child a false sense of agency. "You can choose this," they say. "The world is trying to keep you from this." 4/? #csa #csasurvivorsky #abuse

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Jack thinks it doesn't matter because pedos can't help themselves. That's true! But it misses the point that there's an ideology that they use to train their victims to go along with their desires. That they use anything they can to give them legitimacy. 3/? #csa #csasurvivorsky

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This is the foundation of pedophile arguments for abuse. I linked him to a pedo wiki (yes, that's a thing), explaining their argument from their point of view. I know about this because my 2nd abuser used it to teach me that pedophilia is harmless. 2/? #csa #abuse #csasurvivorsky

submitted 74 days ago • 0 comments

Time for my very first bsky call-out! Jack thinks that the material harm of #csa comes after the fact because adults are scandalized. Jack is either very lucky or very programmed by his abuse. 1/? #abuse #csasurvivorsky

submitted 74 days ago • 0 comments

Do you know how to respond to someone disclosing sexual abuse? It may be the only time they do, and how you respond can make a difference in the outcomes for that person. Child or adult. The deepest betrayal can often come from those who do nothing. #safeguarding #csa #sexualviolence

submitted 78 days ago • 2 comments

Was this the marrow of your pain? You had visceral and electric charisma But did you feel pride? Did you feel held in community? TATTOOED QUEER byporevolution.com/2024/11/tatt... inspired by @dailylilpeephub.bsky.social #anarchy #liberation #poetry #poem #queer #homophobia #addiction #recovery

submitted 80 days ago • 1 comment

Some say children are resilient but they’re really not. They hurt. Abused children learn how to hide their distress, stay silent & develop ways of surviving to help them manage. That might look like a resilient child to those who aren’t paying attention, but it’s not. It’s a traumatised one. #CSA

submitted 80 days ago • 3 comments

1/2 i was a csa victim, a conflict-averse introvert who came out in 1985. homophobia meant there were few visible options for me, so I donned my doc martens, my leather jacket, and tried my hand at danceclubs and one night stands. and I tried to like it. I tried to fit in. I tried to make it work.

submitted 79 days ago • 1 comment

Trauma survivors can have a hell of a time giving ourselves permission to feel good, or feel relieved, or feel excited, or feel hopeful. It all feels like a risk, a trap. Here's the thing: some risks are worth taking-- & we have the human right to experience positive emotions.

submitted 80 days ago • 3 comments

Writing is an act of rebellion. Writing is an act of creation. Writing is an act of salvation. Writing is an act of exploration. Writing is an act of emotion. Writing is an act of confession. Writing is an act of speculation. Writing is an act of reflection. Keep writing.

submitted 80 days ago • 386 comments

I have been in this position, and I see it in all the cults: parents' obedience is to the abusive leader, and they will not protect their children. I have stories...and other survivors do, too.

submitted 79 days ago • 0 comments

A dam needs to break before I can call myself well. It terrifies me that there's more poison in my memories that I can't yet see. But I can't go back. The bridges I burnt to get here are lighting the way. #csa #trauma #abuse #recovery

submitted 79 days ago • 0 comments

#childsexualabuse #csa #survivours

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