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Yesterday's Elements of the American Wedding program at the Gibson House went off with Perfect Propriety (as one would hope). Here I'm standing in for the late J. Mason Warren with the bridal overdress of Annie Crowninshield, his bride. It's amazing what house museums retain!

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Not all of George Washington's Rules of #Civility stood the test of time. www.etiquetteer.com/columns/2018... #etiquette #manners #etiquettebook #outdated

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Etiquetteer would like to wish you a Perfectly Proper Washington's Birthday; it continues to astonish that people forget he was actually born on February 22. From Volume 15, Etiquetteer has a few thoughts on Washington's Rules of #Civility: www.etiquetteer.com/columns/2016... #etiquette #manners

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The Hochzeitmusik (opus 45) by Adolf Jensen is a now-forgotten bit of wedding music that was popular from its 1873 debut through perhaps the end of World War I. #nationalweddingsmonth #weddingmusic www.youtube.com/watch?v=bfTr...

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For #BlackHistoryMonth, Etiquetteer explores what became known as the De Priest Incident, when First Lady Lou Hoover entertained Mrs. Oscar De Priest, the wife of a Black Congressman, at a White House tea: www.etiquetteer.com/columns/2025... #etiquette #manners #afternoontea #equality

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Before "Evergreen," "O Promise Me" was the standard #weddingsong for a couple generations of Americans. Learn more this Saturday at Etiquetteer's Elements of the American #Wedding 1860-1920 at the Gibson House Museum, Boston! More info in comments. www.youtube.com/watch?v=a_5K... #weddings

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It is so very difficult to remain composed while repeatedly yelling “Representative!” into the automated “customer service” phone line!

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Etiquetteer would like to wish you a Perfectly Proper Presidents Day.

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Etiquetteer would like to wish you a Perfectly Proper Valentine's Day.

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You never know when that certain someone might Pop the Question, but if they do in public -- and you're not ready to say yes -- Etiquetteer has some good advice: www.etiquetteer.com/columns/2016... #marriageproposal #etiquette #manners #keepcool

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Often the best response is simply "Thank you so much for mentioning that." "I hope that made you feel better" has a bit more sting. And while that might be satisfying, it isn't really Perfectly Proper.

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Etiquetteer would like to wish you a Perfectly Proper Lincoln's Birthday with an account of his greatest social innovation, the Grand Presidential Party of 1862. (It's worth noting that it was not duplicated by other administrations.) www.etiquetteer.com/columns/2018... #partytime #etiquette

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Etiquetteer would like to wish you a Perfectly Proper National Umbrella Day with a few words from Volume 20: www.etiquetteer.com/columns/2021... #etiquette #manners #nationalumbrelladay

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Etiquetteer will confess to being a bit demoralized by the National Moment, but has a couple ideas about how we can band together to promote Perfect Propriety — inspired by Emily Post Herself of course: www.etiquetteer.com/columns/2025... #etiquette #manners #doitnow

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Etiquetteer would like to wish you a Perfectly Proper Super Bowl Sunday. Fill yours with snacks for later today. Why yes, it IS by Wedgwood.

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A Perfectly Proper word for our time.

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Do I need to be writing about etiquette for the apocalypse? #manners #endtimes

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Etiquetteer would like to wish you a Perfectly Proper National Hemp Day with this review of Lizzie Post’s groundbreaking etiquette book Higher Etiquette, concerning everything to do with cannabis: www.etiquetteer.com/columns/2019... #manners

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A Perfectly Proper message from the Chapel of Saint Catherine in Porto, Portugal. Really, sometimes silence is the ONLY possible response. #etiquette #manners #bequiet

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A social media influencer is getting a lot of unwelcome attention on their business accounts — because they aren’t in that sort of business. Etiquetteer advises on how to deflect or starve these unhelpful DMs: www.etiquetteer.com/columns/2025... #etiquette #manners #socialmedia #bepolite #backoff

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Here's to a Perfectly Proper weekend!

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@jgarstka.bsky.social Welcome to Bluesky!

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A reader wonders if a receiving line could help every guest have a personal word with the guest of honor, a symphony conductor. How do you feel about receiving lines? www.etiquetteer.com/columns/2025... #etiquette #manners #party #celebrities

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In honor of today's earthquake on Boston, and Ava Gardner's all-white ensemble in Earthquake (1974), Etiquetteer has a few words to say about Winter White: www.etiquetteer.com/columns/2019... #etiquette #manners #winterwhite #hats #doesanyonereallystillwearahat

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It may be that some people need a refresher on what is (and isn’t) Perfectly Proper at the supermarket: www.etiquetteer.com/columns/2025... #etiquette #manners #doubleindemnity #idontknowwhytheyalwaysputwhatiwantonthetopshelf #getoutoftheway #marketing #groceries

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It is most Perfectly Proper not to call anyone too early in the morning, especially on the weekend. Etiquetteer recommends simply enjoying your coffee until 10:00 AM, and then calling. #etiquette #manners #quiettime #weekendmanners

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Etiquetteer would like to wish you a Perfectly Proper National Handwriting Day. What a Perfectly Proper day to write to the United States Supreme Court (since they don't have email). Here's how. www.etiquetteer.com/columns/2024... #etiquette #manners #nationalhandwritingday #putitinwriting #scotus

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How many of you knew that First Lady Eleanor Roosevelt wrote an etiquette book? It seemed Perfectly Proper to leaf through it this week. Etiquetteer comments on her sensitive handling of teenagers, the disabled, and patriotism: www.etiquetteer.com/columns/2025... #etiquette #manners #dignity

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This is speaking Truth to Power with Perfect Propriety, the example we need for our time. #admiration

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Etiquetteer would like to wish you a Perfectly Proper Inauguration Day.

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"Sterling silver Stilton shovel" could be the most Perfectly Proper tongue twister yet.

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For those of you in the Boston area, Etiquetteer returns by popular demand to the Gibson House on Washington's Birthday, February 22, for Elements of the American Wedding 1860-1920. Come along and join the fun! www.eventbrite.com/e/elements-o... #etiquette #manners #weddings #nationalweddingsmonth

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Etiquetteer would like to wish you a Perfectly Proper National Religious Freedom Day with a stern reminder that religion is a personal choice for which you have the freedom to choose only for yourself -- not for others. Religion is a guide for one's own behavior, not a goad for everyone else's.

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With an absence of queries, Etiquetteer is pleased to share some commentary from readers — to which Etiquetteer sometimes replies with a bit of an edge: www.etiquetteer.com/columns/2025... #etiquette #manners

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Etiquetteer would like to wish you a Perfectly Proper National Hat Day with a few words from last year about what to do when you see a hat worn incorrectly. www.etiquetteer.com/columns/2024... #etiquette #manners #nationalhatday #hats #saynothing #keepquiet

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Inspired by an etiquette colleague, and also some lovely gifts received, today Etiquetteer considers alternatives to wine as hostess gifts: www.etiquetteer.com/columns/2025... #etiquette #manners #homeentertaining #party #partygifts #notredwineagain #novelty

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This is Etiquetteer's fear: one teapot, multiple guests, but one cannot have caffeine, and other does not like herbal tea.

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