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himal.bsky.social
Wanderer. Runner. Storyteller. AuDHD. GOV.UK Head of Technology during pandemic. Looooong break. Travelled world. In a transitional period. Recent ADHD diagnosis rewriting my life story and rewiring my brain.
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This has not ceased being awesome 🤘

This is a good read on ADHD / neurodivergence. (Note the enormous pop-up can just be closed)

Interesting article and linked paper by on how ADHD traits of novelty seeking and hypervigilance would have served a useful evolutionary purpose but in modern society become distractibility and impulsivity. Reminds me of something I posted other day. Damn no wonder I travelled 18 months.

Reflecting on how I didn’t want to see my ADHD. Not thinking it was the thing it turned out to be. Having buried the symptoms under systems and coping mechanisms, then burying those under stories… until it was all invisible to me. Part of who I was. But visible to others. I had to let all that go.

My mum is very obviously ADHD. Lifelong anxiety, overthinking, decision paralysis, rejection sensitivity, avoidance, fear of intimacy… all of it. Not able to focus even on simple tasks. Always interrupting. Easily dysregulated. Made worse by being misunderstood and downtrodden from a young age. 1/8

This didn’t age well. I was wrong. I still thought so much of what turned out to be ADHD was only me being me. I saw meds as basically all day extra strong coffee. Those coping mechanisms? They worked. They also left me trapped living a life of inflexible rules and no joy. Constant fear of failure.

ADHD making it difficult to focus and be motivated at work is an issue, yes. Need to pay the bills. But ADHD having driven every choice you ever made in your life and shaped who you are shouldn’t be ignored. Maybe you can make different choices? Ones not solely based on reward seeking or survival.

Avoid, hesitate or back down from renegotiating pay, raising an issue or having difficult conversations? Find ways to go around? Tell yourself stories, make excuses or assign blame to self-soothe? Seethe later about unmet needs? Maybe trauma, ADHD, or both. Get help. Life’s too short. 1/3

A dopamine prioritising brain misses a lot of what’s going on - inside and outside. It’s like a mind run for profit. Maximising gains. Minimising losses. Everything business. Missing life. ADHD hyperfocus is a revenue stream. Overthinking, rejection sensitivity and paralysis are scarce times.

“ADHD” really doesn’t describe it for me. I’m going to say: “I have permanently low dopamine and norepinephrine levels due to genetic and environmental factors. My nervous system can be easily overwhelmed affecting my ability to make life decisions or handle strong emotions.” 1/3

My journey the last few months following a late ADHD diagnosis and then medication. How it fundamentally changed everything I thought I knew about myself. I had to forgive the person I was and then let him go. There was pain, anguish and grief but now I am free. No longer the same person.

There are many who will never get support for ADHD because they don’t realise that is what they’ve struggled with their whole lives. They don’t see themselves in the symptoms because their systems, coping mechanisms and stories have hidden them. So they ignore it or give it some other name. 1/2

Great piece by @themomentblog.bsky.social about ADHD medication titration and finding the right balance with some Sonic the Hedgehog and Shinkansen thrown in. Mirrors many of my own experiences.