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Realistic trauma recovery is not compatible with "just go along to get along," when "going along" requires us to deny or disown important parts of ourselves or our values & goals. You bet we get "difficult" as we recover-- and it's about goddamn time.

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The funniest people are always the ones who have the worst back stories. Like HAHA, YEAH, I USED HUMOR TO COPE AFTER I WATCHED MY UNCLE GET HIT BY A TRAIN AND THEN MY BROTHER FED ME A BURGER MADE OF MY OWN DOG. OH AND THEN MY HOUSE BURNED DOWN AND MY TRANSFORMERS MELTED TOGETHER. Brains are WILD.

submitted 25 days ago • 6 comments

This is what the government did with 120K+ Japanese Americans in 1942. I know. I was there in those camps.

submitted 26 days ago • 3624 comments

If you wanted to decrease the cost of homes, one thing you wouldn’t do is put a flat tariff on your main source of timber.

submitted 25 days ago • 1030 comments

There appear to be at least three separately operating heel factions breaking things within the government in wholly different ways right now. There's the Miller-headed immigration one, the DOGE/Elon one, and a Project 2025 OMB one. This dynamic hasn't showed up in mainstream reporting at all.

submitted 25 days ago • 817 comments

There’s been a kind of…fashion of late to view anti-Trump libs as lame and cringe and just annoying, aesthetically. I remember this exact same aesthetic judgment in the run-up to the Iraq war. The earnest libs were right then and they’re right now.

submitted 26 days ago • 854 comments

For many trauma survivors, self-invalidation is so ingrained & reflexive we don't even realize it's happening. But when we're telling ourselves, dozens of times a day, that we "shouldn't" feel what we're feeling, it gets increasingly hard to respect & take ourselves seriously.

submitted 26 days ago • 3 comments

A cult is a place where people believe that there is absolutely nothing wrong with their beliefs, ideas and actions. Given how inherently fallible and error-prone every single human being actually is, you should immediately see the problem.

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I had the sweetest dream last night. I was driving on the LIE and there was Donald Trump in a red jumpsuit, picking up trash beside the highway.

submitted 25 days ago • 1650 comments

It takes curiosity to learn. It takes courage to unlearn. Learning requires the humility to admit what you don't know today. Unlearning requires the integrity to admit that you were wrong yesterday. Learning is how you evolve. Unlearning is how you keep up as the world evolves.

submitted 26 days ago • 17 comments

Are you ready to plunge back into Ron Hubbard's ocean of #Scientology lies? Jon and @RealNatWebster discuss #LRH, drugs and David Miscavige

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“When a clown moves into a palace, he doesn’t become a king. The palace becomes a circus.” - Turkish Proverb

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"Accepting personal responsibility" is not a problem most trauma survivors in recovery have. Usually we've taken on way too much "responsibility" for way too long, & we have unrealistic beliefs about "responsibility" that's truly ours & which we can appropriately take on.

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We don't work our trauma recovery to be "normal." It's not "normal" for people to be as clear on their values & goals as survivors in recovery. It's not "normal" for people to develop life skills & tools like survivors working their recovery. "Normal" doesn't support recovery.

submitted 25 days ago • 2 comments

It's only TUESDAY?? Longest week ever. @theonion.com

submitted 92 days ago • 14 comments

Oliver Twisted. @theonion.com

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submitted 45 days ago • 225 comments

The justice system is now officially a joke.

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One of the clearest signs of learning is rethinking your assumptions and revising your opinions.

submitted 54 days ago • 7 comments

Today Jon & Spike discuss Hitler, magick, Ron Hubbard's son, Nibs, and how #Scientology became the most litigious organisation in the world.

submitted 53 days ago • 0 comments

Personality is how you respond on a typical day. Character is how you show up on a hard day. It's easy to demonstrate fairness, integrity, and generosity when things are going well. The real question is whether you stand by those values when the deck is stacked against you.

submitted 52 days ago • 5 comments

Mike Rinder sent us an email today, to let us know that he had shuffled off this mortal coil. That was so like him, thoughtful to the end. We're just coming to grips with this news. Please join us for some thoughts about this singular man.

submitted 52 days ago • 7 comments

#RIP Mike Rinder. April 10, 1955 – January 5, 2025

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We're gonna make mistakes & fall into old patterns of believing, thinking, feeling, & behaving. Expect it. Don't overreact to it. Remember: what defines our recovery more than anything else is our willingness to respond to ourselves w/ realistic grace, compassion, & flexibility.

submitted 52 days ago • 2 comments

When we start letting ourselves cry after years of being shamed & punished for being "oversensitive," it can feel like we'll never stop. Don't worry about that. Yes, it's a lot-- but you won't be in a state of overwhelm forever. We meet it w/ compassion & acceptance. All day.

submitted 51 days ago • 4 comments

Extending ourselves compassion & patience does not compromise our ability to be "accountable" or "take responsibility." It's actually the opposite. Relating to ourselves w/ harsh judgment or rigid standards doesn't support us in stepping up-- it just shuts us TF down.

submitted 51 days ago • 2 comments

July 4 marks the birth of the United States as a nation declaring itself free from the tyranny of kings. January 6 marks the day when would-be tyrants tried to destroy our nation in a violent betrayal that shook American democracy to its core. www.theframelab.org/january-6-wh...

submitted 51 days ago • 10 comments

We're not gonna hate or shame our way into sustainable trauma recovery-- & that mans confronting, every single day, the programming that has us reflexively trashing & sabotaging ourselves. No off days. Not when it comes to taking our head & heart back from our bullies & abusers.

submitted 51 days ago • 1 comment

It is a trauma recovery skill to accept people exactly as they are-- & to intelligently decide what that means when it comes to the role they're going to play in our head & in our life.

submitted 51 days ago • 5 comments

Yesterday, we posted tributes from Alex Gibney, Spanky Taylor, Tracey McManus and others, but the messages keep coming with memories of Mike Rinder that we knew you would want to see, from author Lawrence Wright, journalist John Sweeney, Claire Headley, and more.

submitted 50 days ago • 0 comments

Bad bosses keep people stuck in dead-end jobs. Good bosses create opportunities for people to grow and advance. Great bosses encourage people to pursue growth and advancement even if it means leaving for another organization.

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It takes practice to hold back apologizing for things you owe no one any apologies or explanations for. Not apologizing is a skill. You're not gonna be great at it for a long minute-- and that's okay. Work on it. Remind yourself that this, & you, are a work n progress.

submitted 50 days ago • 3 comments

"Choices" we made when we were vulnerable, unsupported, & under-resourced, don't represent who we are. They represent what we understood as our options at the time. Grace over guilt. We did what we could w/ what we had then-- & we can only do what we can w/ what we have, now.

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After telling us a million times, if we don't like Elon's Twitter, then leave, we did, and now they're furious, here, and trolling my replies with hateful nonsense

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We cannot wait until we "have" time for self-care. We gotta make time. We're not gonna recover from trauma by accident. The world is not gonna just hand us the tools & space to do it. We gotta f*ckin' claim it-- over, & over, & over again, w/ every little micro choice.

submitted 62 days ago • 3 comments

Toxic self-talk will worm its way into our day in the subtlest of ways. Trauma programming doesn't take a day-- or an hour-- off. Noticing when Trauma Brain is quietly trying to slip a distorted thought or belief into our daily functioning is a non-negotiable recovery skill.

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Remember: our concrete goals are only useful if they help us feel & function the way we wanna. If we achieve some goal & it doesn't lead us to to the feeling place we had in mind, we gotta be willing to switch it up. Recovery is about quality of life, not a laundry list of goals.

submitted 58 days ago • 1 comment

"We are nothing more or less than the cumulative biological and environmental luck, over which we had no control, that has brought us to any moment." - Robert Sapolsky

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Daniel Kahneman wrote about this phenomenon, "narrative fallacies arise inevitably from our continuous attempt to make sense of the world." People tend to rely on narrative coherence over statistical reasoning when making decisions or forming beliefs. 1/2

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"Thinking, Fast and Slow" by Daniel Kahneman has probably influenced my thinking the most of any non-fiction book. Also "The Origins of Totalitarianism" by Hannah Arendt. Foundational fiction: E. L. Konigsburg and more Harry Potter fanfic than could possibly have been healthy for a young girl.

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Daniel Kahneman won a Nobel Prize for proving that you're not as rational as you think. But he found one question that switches on your rational brain: What would I think if this were someone else's decision? It's easier to objective when we're thinking about somoene else.

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