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musclefriendly.bsky.social
Gay. Polyamorous. Kinky. Digital artist. Widower. Grieving father. PTSD survivor. I help others through sorrow and joy as “The After Life Coach”. https://linktr.ee/papabearandy
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“After trauma, it’s easy for life’s tribulations to spin us up. To make us feel activated. Let’s not judge ourselves too harshly. Regulating our emotions is a skill we can practice. So each time we get revved up, we can learn to rev ourselves back down again.” — Papa Bear Hero: Yours truly

submitted 10 days ago • 2 comments

“We love, and some people react with anger. They name call, and lash out. It makes you want to hide away. Yet you didn’t cause their rage. Past pain did. They want to hold you responsible. So they don’t have to heal. Move forward. Keep loving.” — Papa Bear Hero: @jaytxinatx.bsky.social

submitted 16 days ago • 2 comments

“Let your light shine. I burn bright, lighting the way for others. Helping them to celebrate their joy. But also to find peace in their pain. To do that, I remember that I shine of course on my good days. But also on my bad.” — Papa Bear Hero: @scruffy-lobo.bsky.social

submitted 25 days ago • 2 comments

“Often, I meet men who begin by apologizing. ‘I’m sorry I’m too big. Too skinny. Too dark. Too light. Too fay. Too butch. Too neuro-this. Too neuro-that.’ Don’t you see?’ I ask them. ‘Those are the very things that make you beautiful in my eyes.’” — Papa Bear Hero: @gearboyadvance.bsky.social

submitted 31 days ago • 2 comments

“Another fun posing lesson with @nivenb! Some people are just family. They show up when you need them. They put you at ease. They remind you that you matter.” — Papa Bear Hero: yours truly

submitted 35 days ago • 4 comments

“This man is a bright light in my world. So I want to wish him all the best on his special day. Happy birthday, @scruffy-lobo.bsky.social !” — Papa Bear

submitted 37 days ago • 3 comments

“A lot of the things we do are actually a shield to keep us from harm. We may sabotage a good thing in our lives. We may push the good away. All to save ourselves the crippling shame of trying our best and losing it.” — Papa Bear Hero: @jaytxinatx.bsky.social

submitted 42 days ago • 3 comments

“Sometimes, our simplest gift is our most powerful. Words may fail. Actions may not accomplish. Yet just being present — fully present — with another provides deep comfort. We all long to be seen and heard. We all long to be acknowledged.” — Papa Bear Heroes: @fitmurse15 and @fitmedic22 on IG

submitted 44 days ago • 2 comments

“A client had a breakthrough. He felt worthy of kindness when he saw himself as an animal. He’s not alone. Many gay men identify as pups, bears, wolves, bulls… With animals, we can be affectionate and show our feelings. It‘s safe to be who we are.” — Papa Bear Hero: @scruffy-lobo.bsky.social

submitted 45 days ago • 4 comments