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Enjoying a Temporary Respite Integrity Intact Has it only been 2 days since I was relieved of my work responsibilities? It seems like so much more! My body, mind, and spirit are heaving huge, heartfelt sighs. It wasn't that the work itself was stressful, but the knowing/not knowing something…

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The Relief of Knowing When the Shoe Finally Drops I could be feeling sad, angry, or let down right now, but to my surprise, my major emotion is relief. I've been putting in more hours than normal on client work for the last couple of months, but when they brought in a new person, I was pretty sure…

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Handling Unexplained Restlessness What Drives Your Restlessness? I get it. The world is in turmoil. Hate seems to be winning. Is it any wonder people are restless and disconnected? But with so many possible reasons for feeling restless, moody, and on edge, how do you narrow it down to one,…

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A Wander Through My Twisted Mind This Wandering Mind I'm sitting down to write this post tonight with not a single thought in my head as to where I might go with it. I'm motivated to write only by the fact that my friend Candy rattles my cage every time I miss a couple of days. Although she enjoys…

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Simplicity and Peace Finding Peace Unexpectedly I was recently asked why my writing has fallen off so much lately. The truth is, a lot of things have. I haven't taken a ballet class in over 2 months, or resumed my line dancing at least once a week. In fact, socially, I've become somewhat of a…

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Choosing a Cause Going Dark for a Cause I shut down Facebook today. I know...you're thinking; "Again??? What this time, and how soon will you be back?" The why part is easy. I could no longer stand being bombarded by everyone's idea of which cause or causes I should put my time and effort behind,…

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Whatever Helps You Sleep Sleeping With Cats Some people have weighted blankets, I have weighted cats. From 7 pounds to around 20, they take turns sleeping on top of me; their soft purrs carrying me into dreamland, and easing me into my day. I might fall asleep with Artemis, the tiniest, making…

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Artemis playing stealth kitty.

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Riding the Flow of Energy We Are Energetic Beings As an Empath, I'm highly sensitive to changes in energy. Lately, it's been a roller coaster ride...until the last couple of days. Though some might say it's the temporary cessation of gale-force winds, I know myself better than that. This…

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Trust No One Seeking People to Trust We live in an age where we've been conditioned to distrust everyone, and everything we hear from everyone. The powers that be know this is the way to maintain control over the populace, and they're using it to run every aspect of our lives, whether we realize…

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This former outdoor cat is adapting well to his now-permanent confinement. #MaxiCat

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First Rule of Goal Setting: Never Give Up Checking Off the Goals Five years ago, I set a goal to pay off my mortgages by December. Each year since then, I've re-set that goal. Today, I achieved it. The biggest key to achieving the goal, albeit five years later was to trust right timing and myself,…

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Setting Your Buttons on Delay Controlling Your Own Buttons We all have buttons; those words or actions which immediately raise our ire. Some of us control the sensitivity of those buttons better than others. But sensitive or not, giving the pusher an immediate reaction is never in our best…

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It’s OK to Not Know Who Knows? From early childhood, we're conditioned to know; where we're going; what we want to grow up to be; what we should be doing, and when we should be doing it. The truth is, most of the time, you don't know, so you're left pretending you do, and waiting for a clue so you…

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Reminding Myself to Listen Revisiting Active Listening Spending even more time alone lately has impacted my ability to listen to hear rather than listening to respond. I have to remind myself before any interaction to put my listening hat on, and hear the other people out before I jump in with a…

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Never Destined to Conform Why Do We Try So Hard to Fit In? I've spent an inordinate number of years in this lifetime working to be visible; to belong; to matter. The trouble is, I focused on the wrong people; the most ill-fitting groups for my nature, purpose and personality. It turns out, I…

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Learning Resilience from our Pets Max's Story of Resilience About a month ago, I was able (mostly because he allowed it) to catch my outside cat, Max and get him medical attention for an infected wound he received courtesy of the neighborhood bully, I've re-named "Mr. A-hole". Let me preface this…

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Lessons Learned: The Reality of Friendships Friendship Without Dancing It's another Thursday night when I'm sitting at the computer after wwalking and dinner, having once again talked myself out of getting cleaned up and going dancing. I'm not even feeling sad, or like I'm missing out on anything.…

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When a Writer Doesn’t Write A Writing Break There are many reasons a writer doesn't write, be it for days, weeks, months, or even years. That many of us are world-class procrastinators doesn't help matters at times, especially if there are deadlines to meet, or daily posts to keep up with. In the…

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Finding the Courage to Not Belong To Belong is Grossly Overrated Until recently, I expended a lot of effort on trying to belong. In hindsight, I was beating my head against a brick wall encompassing something which, once I removed the rose-colored glasses, wasn't something I wanted at all. Yet in…

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T’was a Good Week for Rescue Kitties Kitties Come, and Kitties Go I've been volunteering at Eastwood Ranch Foundation since October. It's a wonderful experience for me, as well as getting me out of the house, and an opportunity to give of myself to a cause near and dear to my heart. Nothing makes…

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Who Guides My Writing? Not in My Right Mind I'm puzzled. For the last couple of days, I've sat down in front of a blank blog page with nothing to say, yet somehow, managed to peck out over 1000 words each time. Odder still is those posts have gotten more readers than previous ones where I came in…

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Trust the Breadcrumbs Follow Life's Breadcrumbs Life is an adventure. The sooner you accept that, and climb aboard without reservation, the easier it becomes. Because it's an adventure, the point so many of us miss is it's to be enjoyed, not controlled. Yes, you have to follow the breadcrumbs, but…

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Writing My Way to a Better Mindset My Mind is Never Completely Blank With my recent spate of nearly daily posts, there are days when I simply don't have anything to impart; neither wisdom, nor the ramblings of my ADD brain. On such days, as a rule, I simply skip writing entirely knowing,…

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One Intention for 2025: Be More Like Max Finding Intention By Way of the Cat When I was finally able to corral Max and take him to the vet for his latest wounds which didn't seem to be healing, my biggest concern, after his recovery, of course, was how to keep him from getting injured again. The…

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Everyone is Toxic to Someone Toxic is in the Eyes of the Beholder We're all doing our best. We don't set out to upset, offend, or trigger anyone. Yet there will be times we do; often through no fault of our own. Even someone who is bright, happy, and positive will irritate someone, if only because…

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Emotional Support Kitties When Frustration Hits, Cuddle Your Kitties! The last few days have been rather frustrating (though all's well that ends well when you have a great team!) and even my emotional support kitties are feeling the pressure. Max spent a good part of the morning walking around…

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Taking a Breather Take a Few Moments for Yourself When life gets crazy, the hardest thing for some of us to remember is to take a breather. It doesn't have to be a long one, or one where we find ourselves completely at rest, but even taking 10 minutes to step away from your responsibilities, walk…

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Owning My Depression My Depression, My Responsibility Looking back on the many times I've wallowed; the many times I've allowed myself to slink away from humanity to lick my wounds in the haven of my own, four walls, it occurs to me I had a heavy hand in when, why, and how far I sank. Misreading…

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Make the Laws of Attraction Work for You Words Have the Power of Attraction While on my weekly forage, I happened across two people chatting near the produce in Trader Joe's. They were sharing and comparing health issues, aches and pains, and overall woes. The man told the woman he was 69, while…

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Holiday Ho Hums The Holidays are Here? Here it is, the holidays again. My happy, happy, joy, joys have left the building. It's not that I'm sad or depressed. I'm just bored of all the hoop-la...except for the decorations lighting up my neighborhood. I love those, and am going to miss them once…

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Finding Inspiration in Conversation Anything You Say May Be Used as Inspiration I get inspiration for these posts from many directions, though one of my best sources is conversations, usually with a friend, but occasionally from random people too. Frankly, there have been more than a few which…

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The Infinite Hues of Friendship The Color Palette of Friendship For most of my life, I've labored under the misconception that friendship is basically black or white; on or off; all in, or all out. Lately, I've discovered nothing could be further from the truth. In fact, friendship is a wondrous,…

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Shifting the Obsessive Mind Shifting Perspective I learned last week that a major, but thus far, unrevealed change is coming in the new year; one which will affect my earning potential. As it's unclear whether the change will be partial, or complete, my brain is, of course obsessing; where do I…

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A Life Exploded Disturbingly Unscheduled After months of feeling unsupported, ignored, and dismissed, I took a few steps back, and detonated what there was of my social life, tossing a family member or two into the resulting rubble. Yet, the biggest casualty wasn't so much my social life as the…

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Covering Up Our Womanly Essence Masking Your Essence In the 50's the prevailing myth was the housewife, eagerly awaiting her breadwinner husband, dressed in a shirtwaist pressed to within an inch of its life, every hair in place, makeup perfectly applied, while standing in a house reminiscent of…

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A Week for Shifting Gears Throwing Regular Schedules Out the Window The last week has been so upside down and backwards, I honestly have to stop, think, and look at a calendar to even know what day it is! The last time I danced was Saturday. The last time I took a ballet class was...I'm not even…

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Leave the Drama to Your Mama Give Me a RomCom Over a Drama There's been an abundance of drama in my life this year. I'd like to say it's through no fault of my own, but I'd only be kidding myself. As much as I dislike drama, there are times I seem to attract it to myself, like flies…

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Simple Pleasures In Fact, Life Really is a Box of Chocolate At a time of year when lives tend to spiral out of control more than usual, it's the best time to stop, look around, breathe a few deep breaths, and indulge in a simple pleasure or two. For me, it's the recently discovered Swiss Miss Dark…

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Keeping Mr Scrappy Doo happy on a blustery winter night.

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Rebuilding Social Tolerance Social Tolerance Needs Exercise Despite it being a lighter than normal night, and an outdoor venue, I found a two week lag between dance events left me completely exhausted and drained after only a couple of hours. Though the company was pleasant and undemanding, and…

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Slowing Down to Enjoy the Journey The Wisdom of Slowing Down When I was younger, I was always in a hurry, rushing from task to task; place to place; driving too fast, and missing all the details. I never stopped long enough to appreciate my surroundings. My plate was always so full, I didn't dare…

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Increasingly Selfish You give and give until the day you realize you've been giving to the wrong people all along.

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Releasing What No Longer Serves Time to Release the Past This has been an interesting year; a year of change, and a year of letting go of who and what no longer serves me. As such, there's been a fair amount of upheaval and a lot of uncertainty. Where I'll be going, and with whom are the biggest…

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Apparently, chapstick makes a great cat toy!

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Master of Disguise People disguise their true selves for all the wrong reasons. Stop being the person you think makes others comfortable!

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