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my instinctive answer to "how are you holding up?" is "I'm not," but I must be, because I'm still here. I keep thinking of this recent conversation with my therapist. me: what do I do? when all I want to do is die, what do I actually DO? him: do literally anything else. #WeeknightWriters

submitted 12 hours ago • 2 comments

Adding on to this tip: don't use Ctrl+F to remove all instances of "just," lest your MC suddenly finds themselves fighting for ice.

submitted 12 hours ago • 3 comments

It's been a tough week with no writing, but I'm hoping I'll eventually get back to my WIP: an aspiring serial killer must repeatedly foil the MC's suicide attempts so he can be the one to kill her. #WeeknightWriters

submitted 12 hours ago • 2 comments

this will sound like a joke question, but it's not: how do you eat cheese?? I didn't grow up eating it and only recently learned I like it but have no idea how it's eaten. (same thing happened with butter; I didn't know I'm not supposed to eat it with a spoon out the box until months ago)

submitted 2 days ago • 8 comments

ugh, so sorry I couldn't contain it or use words. am a bit safer and trying to get through the panic. local friends called, ordered groceries, held me as I cried and wished to die. no one can take the feeling away, but I know someone would if they could.

submitted 3 days ago • 4 comments

i need help now

submitted 5 days ago • 5 comments

I keep trying not to talk about how angry and sad I am, but it's all overflowing.

submitted 7 days ago • 2 comments

For anyone who needs this: Turn off those notifications you hate. Unsubscribe from those emails you never open. Little annoyances add up—you don’t have to put up with them.

submitted 8 days ago • 2 comments

they should invent a horror that doesn't persist

submitted 8 days ago • 1 comment

I keep thinking of this

submitted 8 days ago • 4 comments

no matter the genre, nothing beats the feeling of finally finding the perfect wording.

submitted 9 days ago • 0 comments

was reminded that so far, I have outlasted this feeling 100% of the time, so even though it feels impossible, I KNOW it's not.

submitted 10 days ago • 4 comments

I am still committed to not oversharing. but I am really, really struggling and wanting desperately to take the quickest way out.

submitted 11 days ago • 7 comments

I've lost track of all the craft books I've read, works I've edited, and writers I've worked with. I just know the conclusion they've led me to: the best way to write is whatever gets the words onto the page.

submitted 11 days ago • 1 comment

writing unsent letters in an effort to relieve anger and hurt. turns out my principles = VERY unsatisfying insults. "if you were endangered in front of me... well, I'd save your life, but I'd hesitate. well no, I wouldn't, but I would NOT be happy about it."

submitted 12 days ago • 3 comments

writers and editors, write off those taxes! in addition to books and office supplies: - Word, Adobe, Scrivener - website - research - ads even your Internet and home office (but you'll have to calculate how much went directly to business)

submitted 12 days ago • 0 comments

I almost shared it yesterday but thought no one would want to see it—here it is! (ngl, was NOT into it at first and thought "what did/do I do???" but it's already growing on me) note: the fading tattoo is an ephemeral tattoo, which fades over ~2 years

submitted 12 days ago • 4 comments

my favorite icebreaker: what can you talk for hours about?

submitted 12 days ago • 3 comments

today, I want self-love to count. two years ago I wrote this in despair, wishing for this to be true. the wish is still there, but lately, at last, it's met a bit of hope.

submitted 13 days ago • 1 comment

yes, people will still love you, even if you don't love yourself.

submitted 13 days ago • 1 comment

woke up while sleep-talking and was thoroughly taken aback hearing/feeling myself mumble "...all to rush it through the publishing process"

submitted 13 days ago • 2 comments

just realized I've never shown y'all my hair!!!

submitted 14 days ago • 4 comments

the hairdresser who touched up my pink hair was like "look, it's good to like a color, but you shouldn't go overboard" and I was like ??? geez cut to my laundry—

submitted 14 days ago • 2 comments

my therapist avoids declarative statements, and he often reminds me of my role and responsibility in negative interactions/relationships. so today when I talked about my regret and grief over the lost friendship, I couldn't have expected what he said: "you didn't do anything wrong."

submitted 15 days ago • 1 comment

this tweet has attracted both the "oh you've been living under a ROCK huh???" and "we're fine stop being dramatic 🙄" crowd and I have to stop myself from replying "idk what you read but that's not what I said"

submitted 15 days ago • 2 comments

You guys. I went to the Westminster dog show on Saturday (as press, not with a dog) and one of my photos made the CNN photo gallery of the event and I am so so happy about it www.cnn.com/2025/02/11/u...

submitted 15 days ago • 46 comments

it is never a bad time to plant a tree.

submitted 15 days ago • 0 comments

it's not the cleverest, but I go with "ass-casting"...

submitted 16 days ago • 1 comment

read through with parentheses, then without, then parentheses only

submitted 16 days ago • 2 comments

please tell me this past month was not a preview of the rest of my life.

submitted 16 days ago • 2 comments

You can forgive the person you are while grieving the person you thought you'd be.

submitted 16 days ago • 1 comment

How do you write when the world is burning? Passionately and compassionately. Onward.

submitted 17 days ago • 21 comments

they should invent an it that isn't what it is

submitted 17 days ago • 1 comment

it's been 13 more months. I can't believe it.

submitted 18 days ago • 6 comments

"don't kill the part of you that is cringe. kill the part of you that cringes."

submitted 18 days ago • 0 comments

be the first champion of your work.

submitted 18 days ago • 0 comments

have been told this and FWIW, if I post about my depression and you "like" it, just know I always interpret it as support, not enjoyment!

submitted 19 days ago • 0 comments

Past Stephi has failed Current Stephi. - wrote in my to-do list "email director." which director? about what? ¯\_(ツ)_/¯ - bought only big bandages, thinking "if it's that small, a tissue will do"

submitted 19 days ago • 1 comment