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ADHD Coach & Academic Strategist | Guiding ADHD, autistic, and neurodivergent clients through lived experience | they/her | #AuDHD | #ActuallyAutistic
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I know I've been silent for a while on socials, and I want to let y'all know what's going on. (It's nothing bad, I promise!) The gist is that I'm really struggling to find a way to use social media without getting absolutely sucked into the gaping chasm of hopelessness doomscrolling inspires in me

submitted 5 days ago • 2 comments

The amount of energy it takes to mask ADHD, autism, or other neurodivergence isn't constant. It changes day to day or situation to situation. This means, when we do need to mask, it isn't always possible to predict what the impact is going to be on the rest of our day

submitted 24 days ago • 1 comment

Understanding how our environment impacts us is so important to managing ADHD. For example, I know every time I get a notification I'll impulsively check and derail myself. With this knowledge, I can reduce this when I need work time or I can increase it to be pulled out of a task I'd get stuck in

submitted 25 days ago • 0 comments

Today my ADHD brain feels like a radio stuck on search. >.< It hangs onto a thought just long enough to know it's there, then it skips off to a completely random next thought. Some of the stations are playing music, others are talk radio, others intense dramas. It's all just random

submitted 25 days ago • 1 comment

This is exactly the all-or-nothing thinking I was referring to in the original post. The choices aren't between "check out" and "keep informed." This is a slider. If where you have your slider is paralyzing you to inaction, that's no helpful or healthy. You can move that slider a bit. That's all

submitted 25 days ago • 0 comments

oh no I've spent hours excitedly making the perfect plan on how to do everything and I can't get up

submitted 26 days ago • 0 comments

Staying informed is only helpful if it doesn't become a barrier in its own right. If keeping informed prevents you from improving the world in the ways you want to, or prevents you from caring for yourself or your community, it isn't helpful or healthy. It's not failure changing that relationship

submitted 26 days ago • 2 comments

I want to be interacting with the lovely people I've found on social media over the years, but right now, social media is too much for me to deal with emotionally. I love y'all, and remember to take care of yourselves. The first step in mutual aid is being in the place to be able to give mutual aid

submitted 35 days ago • 3 comments

Me: I've got 15 minutes until I need to leave for my appointment. I better get ready My brain: Just enough time for an anxiety doom spiral! Me, 30 minutes later, super anxious: I feel like I'm forgetting something...

submitted 48 days ago • 1 comment

Tonight on everyone's favourite game: Cooking with ADHD. Did I burn myself, burn my food, both, or neither (i.e., forget to eat)? Answers in the second post.

submitted 57 days ago • 1 comment

Me: One thing you have to know about this household is that anytime we say something, we should expect the other person to ask "what?" at least once. Them: What? Me: Exactly! Them: ... ._. Me: ... ._.

submitted 59 days ago • 1 comment

Me, battling with my ADHD executive dysfunction: Come on, let's get up and do something, anything. On 3, okay? 1, 2, 2 and a quarter... 2 and a half... My dog one of my biggest supporters:

submitted 61 days ago • 3 comments

I'd love to be able to stand up without the 50+% chance of feeling dizzy, weak, and getting tunnel vision :/

submitted 61 days ago • 1 comment

Personally, I think that NTs should be more grateful for the fact that they can count on the ADHD'ers in their life to have just about any hobby related tool, often in a completely unused state

submitted 66 days ago • 5 comments

Autistic people (and autistic women in particular) are FAR more likely to experience an eating disorder than our allistic counterparts. There's many aspects to this association, but I think one we don't talk about enough is the way society talks about food as if there's black and white rules (1/2)

submitted 68 days ago • 2 comments

Today my partner ordered their meds, told me that they ordered their meds, and then we promptly both forgot and hid from the delivery person who knocked on our door like the interaction avoidant millennials we are We definitely owe that delivery driver an apology ^^;;

submitted 69 days ago • 1 comment

When you rely on urgency to get tasks started, the way that many ADHD'ers do, periods of crisis or constant urgency can actually be _less_ stressful than periods with less urgency. When the crisis dies down, so does our ability to start tasks, our sense of effectiveness and sometimes our self-worth

submitted 70 days ago • 3 comments