I'm honestly not crazy about the term "dolls" to refer to trans fems but with everything else going on any support is valuable and i'll take it. but whoof. i wish there was a different way to say this.
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It comes from 80s ballroom culture and spread through Paris is Burning https://youtu.be/nI7EhpY2yaA?feature=shared
Good and culturally significant documentary capturing the black and latino queer community in New York through the heights of the aids crisis.
I've seen that movie a couple times and I don't remember "dolls" being used much in there. But I'm sure it has a history in the culture. Idk. As I said, I'm ambivalent about it.
It hits especially badly to me, a still-laegely-masc-presenting transfemme, given that 'd0llsky' were the ones pushing the garbage 'c1ssexual' takes. But yeah, I'll take an imperfect ally any day
I fully understand this perspective, however I personally enjoy the term. I've been called Doll by customers at work, and every time I've felt euphoric and seen as a woman. That's just me though.
Even one's proper chosen pronouns can be disrespectful if uttered in sarcastic enough tones. Like, we can hear those implied quotation marks.
Conversely, misgendering done genuinely by accident is not a sign of disrespect. Linguistic habits are legitimately difficult to break, regardless of intent.
I've always heard it in reference to women/girls in general, mainly in older media/from older people. So to him it may just be his way of saying "yes you ARE females to me."
Now if trans folk are taking offence to it, I guess I can understand why bc without context it can be seen as rude.
a doll is not a real person, its a childs plaything, or a decorative object, and a facsimile of a person. so obliquely its implying that trans people are fake. and calling someone "doll" is like borderline sexual harassment. its the kind of thing a boss calls his secretary in the 1950s
I've only heard it as a term of endearment. Like a mom calling her daughter "a beautiful doll". Or a guy calling their wife "dollface" implying she's pretty.
But again, I do get it the other end of the spectrum, especially if it's only being used on transfem these days
I've only ever seen trans women posting about it negatively, but that might just be the people I follow. It seems like a weird one; I'm not sure where it came from.
very possible! I've seen it used plenty of places (including the webcomic I RTed earlier which is what made me think of it just now) and some people like it. me.. i'm ambivalent leaning against, but not so much that i disavow it
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Then again, I wouldn't mind being someone's plaything. Hm.
https://youtu.be/nI7EhpY2yaA?feature=shared
Good and culturally significant documentary capturing the black and latino queer community in New York through the heights of the aids crisis.
Also, his sister is trans and there's a decent chance she told him that term is cool to call her.
Either way, he gets the pass. Every pass. I love you Pedro Pascal <3🥰
Totes understand why people don't like it though.
Conversely, misgendering done genuinely by accident is not a sign of disrespect. Linguistic habits are legitimately difficult to break, regardless of intent.
Now if trans folk are taking offence to it, I guess I can understand why bc without context it can be seen as rude.
But again, I do get it the other end of the spectrum, especially if it's only being used on transfem these days
I'm glad he's supportive, but oof