the scariest thing about growing up as a girl is your guy friends suddenly not wanting to be "friends", but lovers and then awkwardly having to friendzone him.
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Eh, At this point idc abt relationships anymore.
At this point, either i die in a war in a few years or from hunger in a nuclear wasteland, so why bother?
I still remember the first time I told a girl I liked her back when I thought I was a guy, she said no and that she was into girls and I literally just went, "oh.... well alright I guess" and somehow we were still friends after that
It's kind of scary for me too. When I was living in an apartment owned by a mental health group that gave the disabled residents like me social services, one of the other residents asked me out. I was scared to say no because one of the group workers was loved romance-type stuff.
The worker wouldn't understand my aromanticism and the guy who asked me out also told me Ace Ventura was his favorite movie (I'm trans, so big red flag for me). Also another support worker was confused by asexuality when my roommate mentioned being ace. I'm also ace but I didn't feel safe saying so.
as a closeted trans girl i got like an inversion where after a certain age it was assumed i was crushing on girls when deep down i wanted to be platonic!girlfriends
(though now that im out and older i recognize when i also want to be gay!girlfriends lol)
i remember this one time I didn't say thank you to this guy for holding the door open for me and he proceeded to follow me and call me names until his friend told him to calm down.
cis me are still weird to me even now as a trans guy funnily enough.
What a weird response to someone not saying "thank you." Like, when someone doesn't thank me for holding a door open, I assume they have other things on their mind.
That makes perfect sense, but blaming you for him bugging out like that is kinda fucked, too.
*shrug*
If you hold a door open or lend a hand, do it because it is the right thing to do, not because you expect praise. Gratitude is given freely, not owed like a debt.
i was a cis man and i am still weirded out by their behavior. cismen are just raised and treated so differently in their lives that they feel they can do anything they want (in a negative sense)
cis men would be weird to a fleshlight if it talked back at them tbh but in some cases being a trans guy makes you MORE interesting to them than a cis woman would be. i ended up deleting grindr because of it, the way they would talk to me made me want to peel myself like a grape
unsurprising but still disappointing, i hate how common reactionary behavior is getting especially within supposed “leftist” spaces. i’m sorry you had to go through that, that’s awful
It's all fun and games till you catch feelings and all the laughter dies down and you're left with nothing but great memories and regretting ever making your feelings known because you felt the most comfortable with said person.
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Me 16 years ago sadly lmao I learned my lesson.
As a (former) cis guy, I never really got this. Like why did they want to date literally every girl who was nice to them? Like I’m nice to people by default, it doesn’t mean I want to date each and every person I set my eyes on.
I mean I am Ace so that probably factored into it but still!
Yeah. Your body changing itself so your guy friends gradually stop seeing you for who you are and start seeing you as a sex object, a kind of bespoke horror.
that or if you're labeled as the "weird girl" by other people and cis guys will come up to you saying they're friend wants to date you and giggling like you're diseased.
oh my GOD its the fucking worst. just when you think a guy finally just wants to be friends they hit you with the "i have something to tell you". kills them with hammers
I remember in highschool the only guy friend I had kept vehemently making moves on me and calling me "one of the good ones" because I didn't wear makeup or anything, and later on admitted he was only trying to date me because he got rejected by a different girl he liked lmfao
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At this point, either i die in a war in a few years or from hunger in a nuclear wasteland, so why bother?
as a closeted trans girl i got like an inversion where after a certain age it was assumed i was crushing on girls when deep down i wanted to be platonic!girlfriends
(though now that im out and older i recognize when i also want to be gay!girlfriends lol)
cis me are still weird to me even now as a trans guy funnily enough.
especially when my mom blamed me for what happened
*shrug*
If you hold a door open or lend a hand, do it because it is the right thing to do, not because you expect praise. Gratitude is given freely, not owed like a debt.
im sorry you faced harassment on social media, you dont deserve that treatment.
^^^^^^^^^^
Me 16 years ago sadly lmao I learned my lesson.
I mean I am Ace so that probably factored into it but still!
i've experienced both! not a fan of either.
Sorry you had to deal with that shit.