Back when I was a kid, it was considered lame to wear seatbelts even in the front seats. You could cram a scatter of kids into the back. Nowadays seatbelt laws make 3 a soft maximum
We deliberately had 4 kids 94-2002 and will never recover financially, but we think it was worth it. We were quite poor until the last 15 years and knew we would be. I was a SAHM for 14 years and don’t make much now as a result. We are NOT religious. Not all big families are total crazy people.
Obviously the author fits this criteria but I know a lot of people who ended up with more kids than they planned for and it doesn’t make them “absolute psychos.”
Yeah I agree with you on that. The OP probably should have thrown in the “planned” qualifier like you did instead of calling a good portion of the population absolute psychos
Yeah I already said that author was crazy if you follow the thread. The person I was responding said anyone (no qualifiers) with more than 3 kids these days as an absolute psycho. I disagree with that part 🤷🏻. Maybe I’m being pedantic. Have a nice day
my dad grew up adjacent to his ultra orthodox family (mostly up in Kiryas Joel) and he absolutely thinks they're on par with fundamentalist mormons and quiverfull freaks. not just because they have a gazillion kids, but that's part of it.
In Israel they're a tenth of the population, and generally very poor, and viewed as not zionists, so leftists here want to get them, not their leaders, into the movement.
And also in Israel many seculars blast them as parasites because their leaders are given lots of social support money for...
So a quick Google search told me that means a “fearing god.” I think faith is an important aspect of many people’s lives but I’m not personally worried
"Because god told you so" isn't an entirely accurate representation of the Haredi approach to family life. They grew up with many siblings all of their friends did as well, and the rabbis they were taught to revere tell them it's a mitzvah.
There’s a third type which is “wanted to have a 3rd kid, ended up with twins.” Believe me when I say this is one of the most stressful things that can happen to people, even as they do love those kids they’re raising.
No, I don't think this is right. Some people do a great job of raising 4+ kids, and reproductive freedom is a thing.
The problem is pushing other people to have kids they don't want, or when you reproduce out of some fuckshit idea of superior genes or owning the libs.
My dad had six kids (3 with each wife, aged 34-55) but only has four grandchildren because we weren’t raised in a cult determined to win the long term population game. The people having kids for *any* philosophy (vs personal circumstances/capacity) always boils down to “us vs them” racism.
Exactly. Do what suits your own life, not some "control the future thru how many kids I have" thing. Don't be an Elon!
Of the six of us, *one* sibling recently said they *may* be contemplating kids. We have loads of cousins, but if my parents had been trying to breed up a clan...lololol.
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(And of course throw out a lot of extenuating circumstances - second marriages, unexpected multiples, etc…)
And also in Israel many seculars blast them as parasites because their leaders are given lots of social support money for...
https://bsky.app/profile/maiadror.bsky.social/post/3l4yc77udyr2j
The problem is pushing other people to have kids they don't want, or when you reproduce out of some fuckshit idea of superior genes or owning the libs.
--eldest of 6, parent of 0
Of the six of us, *one* sibling recently said they *may* be contemplating kids. We have loads of cousins, but if my parents had been trying to breed up a clan...lololol.