Yup. I'm the same way when I see people loved up on their moms. I lost my mom and step mom and I am BITTER. I don't even like celebrating mothers day even though I'm a mama. Just throw the holiday away.
And my mom's bday would fall on Mother's day all the time so it just makes me sick anyway.
Yes, 100%. I even have a hard time when someone mentions a fight/disagreement with their sister. I’d give anything to fight with my sister again (we were best friends but fought in the way only siblings can).
You are so not alone. I had to walk out of my cousins wedding a few weeks ago when the bride danced with her dad because I viscerally couldn’t take it - miss my dad so much this time of year and I was so jealous.
Yes, it’s true. It’s different than typical jealousy though. I’m jealous of happy couples that still have their spouse but I don’t actually mean any harm. I’m also happy for them at the same time.
I can understand with you on that part because grief is sadly one hell of a drug. But I can turn it to a positive as in you see others with their loved one’s and reminisce on the good times that you had with your brother/sister or special person. It may be hard but hey we’ll see them again one day!
That’s how I feel when I see people doing stuff with their dads or complaining about their dad… it’s like “why am I mad?” But I get it and you’re not alone ❤️
See, for me it’s the folks who don’t have good relationships with their people that get me going because my pops got the nerve to be departed and you don’t speak to yours. Had a friend say they wish it had been their dad. 😑
I'm jealous of you non-loners. I fell into this identity and I miss people. They're still breathing, but... I can't. I'm alone. I'm this now. A lady at my job hugged me. it was the first time someone touched me in 2 years... I cried in the car. But I smile bigly and laugh with everyone I see...
I feel it in your voice. Though it's not the same, but those two boys you have are your brothers too. As they mature & grow, they'll need you and each other in their adult lives. I've seen it in your posts with them, he's there with y'all, find those moments and that love you can share with them.
I'm sorry and understand. The grief never leaves and the jealousy hurts almost as much. Lost my half brother years ago. At his memorial, I met cousins and his half siblings. I was jealous about the time they all had together.
Different but related. Divorce is another side of loss that is often overlooked. But I side eye couples because that was supposed to be us and ish went south. Now these couples are talking about their spouses and I just have to sit quiet like it doesn’t hurt.
Shoutout to the folks who grew up in dysfunction and isolation so they now struggle with resentment when they watch other people navigate life with the supports they lacked.
Check this out. Jealously isnt always bad. Healthy jealously is ABSOLUTELY a thing. As long as it doesn’t cloud you into toxic thoughts or behaviors, allow yourself to feel it without feeling bad. We’re human with human emotions. This thought process is more normal than you and many people may think
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And my mom's bday would fall on Mother's day all the time so it just makes me sick anyway.
Take your time.
But it is also REAL
Two things can be true…
Shoutout to the folks who grew up in dysfunction and isolation so they now struggle with resentment when they watch other people navigate life with the supports they lacked.
Please take care of yourself!
My dad died and I didn't get the time I needed with him. She took care of me and still does through this pain I can't get rid of. It's been 20 years
Good moms are so damn cool. I love mine.