Weddings are usually nonstop 6 to 12 or even 14+ hour jobs for photographers, not counting the editing. if you can afford a professional photographer for your wedding, you can afford a fucking plate of food for him.
If it is this story, the photographer was perfectly right.
Quote: "He tells me I need to either be photographer, or leave without pay."
But no Pay means No Pictures.
Deleting the photos out of spite is unprofessional and unkind. Keeping the photos but refusing to turn them over until paid in full is normal business practice that no one would question.
Maybe, but with this story, photographing for a (former) FRIEND and for almost nothing! and then treated this way... I would have deleted the pictures myself.
And, the groom himself canceled the contract with his own words. Either Photographer or out with no money.
Game over
Like it or not many people will judge you by how you treat people working for you. Don't be snobby pigs and you wont experience problems such as this. No one is better than anyone else. In the end we are all dust.
I mean sounds toxic all around. The guy takes pics of dogs, signed on with a friend for 250 bucks for wedding. Toxic guy says no you can’t take a break, we need you to shoot pictures. Other toxic guy deletes photos. They kind of all suck.
My partner works in a successful private event/wedding band and a country club gig recently told them to not use the buffet but instead eat at the restaurant on the property away from party guests. $800 later the band was well watered and fed at their table. Tee hee
What's a "Christian"? I'm familiar with Christians but not sure what the quotation makes are meant to signify. Are we still talking about a guy who was upset because he didn't get a free meal at a wedding or have I wandered into a weird adjacent dimension?
I’m with GiGi. When we hosted our reception 10 years ago at the Sirloin Stockade in Muncie, Indiana we spent $1,200 per plate and that really did add up.
I could imagine if you have help on your wedding you can at least have something for them to eat. I do not think they are entitled to eat with the wedding guests.
Not only did we offer a staff meal at our wedding, but my father ensured it was a hot meal. His father was a working musician and so he knew how rare and appreciated it would be. When I ran a wedding venue I always asked the wedding to include my tech staff in their staff meal too
We just hosted our daughter's Bat Mitzvah party. The catering contract included food for the DJ, photographer, and others working the event. I think the same thing was true at our wedding over 20 years ago. I assumed that was industry standard.
The tendency to treat contractors, wage workers, etc as if they were hired servants or worse is a facet of American culture that really needs to change. Sure, wedding plans might have a predetermined amount of food, but you're telling me nobody could DoorDash him a hamburger?
Or predetermine food for said photographer/videographer etc hired staff for the day. Its not like they just ordered one 5 mins before wedding started...
Exactly. Granted we don't have every detail just from a headline, but it sounds like poor or miserly planning. We're talking about lunch for one man here, not him & 20 of his friends.
There was a photographer, with assistant, and a DJ at my wedding all day. We made sure they were fed and had drinks when required. It wasn't difficult. But some folk are idiots I guess.
I wonder if weddings might be a particular cause of the attitude seen in this thread. It may be the one day that a resentful bougie bride gets to hire "help" and pretend she lives the life of someone who has servants.
There's definitely the potential for that "it's *my* special day, this is all about *me*" attitude, & I do think that plays into it in some cases. But entitlement is just as ugly for brides as it is for everyone else, and a wedding day is the last day someone should look ugly.
Yeah like...some of my ancestors were literal nobility, one of my immediate ancestors was a millionaire, and I'm pretty sure they fed their staff, their neighbors, and anyone else who showed up on their property for an event, because that's just *what you do* when you host something.
The lack of courtesy of feeding " staff " is one thing but the unprofessional behavior of not doing the job you were hired for is the bigger issue here. This isn't just about being kind or not.
Original post on Reddit from the guy. He wasn’t even a formal photographer but a friend of the marrying couple and they denied him even a break for water.
We fed all the workers at our wedding. It's what one should do. I also have hot coffee and tea or something cold to drink when workers come to my house. Again, it's a small gesture that goes a long way.
Look, we all know there is always excess food at a wedding and it was probably no issue to feed an extra person or six but let’s look at this from another point of view.
If a Plummer is at your house for 8 hours are they entitled to food in your fridge?
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Weddings are usually nonstop 6 to 12 or even 14+ hour jobs for photographers, not counting the editing. if you can afford a professional photographer for your wedding, you can afford a fucking plate of food for him.
Quote: "He tells me I need to either be photographer, or leave without pay."
But no Pay means No Pictures.
End of story.
And, the groom himself canceled the contract with his own words. Either Photographer or out with no money.
Game over
But I also understand and approve the emotional reaction of the (hobby) photographer here.
Sounds like any easy lawsuit to me. Not a lesson in “be indiscriminately kind, regardless of the context.”
wedding’s almost always have a surplus of food.
wedding photographers have to be on the move and be attentive for hours- they deserve a lil food break
41 Then shall he say also unto them on the left hand, Depart from me, ye cursed, into everlasting fire, prepared for the devil & his angels:
42 For I was an hungred, & ye gave me no meat: I was thirsty, & ye gave me no drink:
wehat the fuck kinda attitude
ugh
Look, we all know there is always excess food at a wedding and it was probably no issue to feed an extra person or six but let’s look at this from another point of view.
If a Plummer is at your house for 8 hours are they entitled to food in your fridge?
The photographer should have stated this to the wedding venue and value their time in their business.
My god, how about the decency in offering somebody some food and something to drink wether or not he/she/they is a guest or working at the event?